Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Silverwex's Bulking Thread
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Being "big" is great, but few things beat the satisfaction of being ripped and seeing that sixpack coming into view. That's when you know you're one of the beautiful people.
Have you tried carb cycling by the way? I've been doing it for a few weeks and the results are good. My energy doesn't drop as dramatically as it did while I was cutting either.
silverwex
Master Don Juan
Right, lets answer some questions.
Life: I still lift (3 day cardio, 3 day lifting - one day off - saturday), but have been maintaining my old routine as im running low on the €'s - im only only like 1.2g protein per lb for the time being. Hopefully 2g (or more) will strenghten my lifts. Will i notice this straight off, once i start eating more?
Double: If you're hungry go eat some tuna!!!
So you want me to post my routine or my maxes? Or what? Thanks for the interest!Jariel: Nice to see ya on my thread. I dont have a clue what carb cycling is! Is that when you lessen your carb intake and then bring it up for a while, then back down or something? I just cut back on majority of carbs after 6/7pm (go to bed about 1am). Ive only lost about 1.5/2% BF so far (im about 7/8weeks). Not good.
Semag: I know all about the 'roll of fat on the stomach'. lol. have way too much of that at the moment. Dammit! More cardio called for!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
silverwex
Master Don Juan
here ya go. PS - Post your routine will you please? And a sample of your daily meal plans? Thanks. Need new ideas asap!
MY CURRENT ROUTINE
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TRICEP/SHOULDER/CHEST DAY
4 x Military Press x 4-6 reps
2 x Upright Rows x 5-8 reps
2 x Shrugs x 6-8 reps
3 x Bench Press (with medium grip) x 4-6 reps
2 x Skullcrushers (negative reps) x 5-8 reps
2 x Dips x 4-6 reps
BICEP/BACK DAY
3 x Pull Up (wide grip) x 4 reps
3 x Bent Rows x 5-8 reps
2 x Deadlift x 6-8 reps
2 x Barbell Curl x 4-6 reps
2 x EZ Curls x 4-6 reps
2 x Hammer Curls x 4-6 reps
2 x Concentration Curls x 4-6 reps
LEG DAY
4 x Squat x 4-6 reps
4 x Stiff Leg Deadlift x 4-8 reps
2 x Calf Raise x 10-15 reps
routine looks okey. Maybe a little to few sets on the chest and calves.
day1
bentoverrows
benchpress
squats
day2
chinups
mililtary press
deadlifts
day3
sz curls
benchpress
+stuff i feel like doing
day3 is a bit unsure i will see how it goes.
example of my meals yesterday:
-2scoops of whey(i do always a bit more then the normal scoop size)
-pasta+ham+vegetables
-candies/cakes + fruits. i feel so embarassed now
-2scoops whey
-a can of ravioli
-3scoops whey
-peanuts
-2scoops whey
-a total of 1,5-2 L lactose free 1,5% milk
i think that makes 250-300g protein. not that good but enough to grow a lil bit.candies and ham make the calories, whey the protein, not textbook but it seems to be ok.
silverwex
Master Don Juan
double: wow, that routine is so simple, yet im guessing it works wonders for you. how have you progressed with it? thatnks for the meal plan too.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I've enjoyed reading your progress.
Carb cycling basically involves a 3 day cycle with one day where you eat lots of carbs, one day of low carbs and one day with virtually no carbs at all.
The high carb days give you the energy for your training and stop you feeling weak (and going insane), but the low/no carb days should reduce fat - with the help of cardio.
It's very hard to monitor your bf during this time as one day you'll look quite swollen, the next quite trim. But as the weeks pass, you should start to look trimmer and trimmer.
There's a more detailed article here:
http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/par30.htm
Hope that helps. If anyone else has anything to add, I'd be interested in reading more opinions.
Warboss Alex
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Yes, I'd just like to add that it's an advanced technique for competing bodybuilders or possibly those of us who want to get down to extremely low bodyfats - but for the majority a reasonable diet, heavy training to keep muscle and a structured, progressive HIIT/steady state cardio regimen will get us where we want to be, without feeling like **** on the low/no carb days and the dismal feeling of the logbook owning our arse when we inevitably lose strength.Originally posted by Jariel
I've enjoyed reading your progress.
Carb cycling basically involves a 3 day cycle with one day where you eat lots of carbs, one day of low carbs and one day with virtually no carbs at all.
The high carb days give you the energy for your training and stop you feeling weak (and going insane), but the low/no carb days should reduce fat - with the help of cardio.
It's very hard to monitor your bf during this time as one day you'll look quite swollen, the next quite trim. But as the weeks pass, you should start to look trimmer and trimmer.
There's a more detailed article here:
http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/par30.htm
Hope that helps. If anyone else has anything to add, I'd be interested in reading more opinions.
Yes, it's possibly to get totally shredded using diet alone (no cardio at all) but who of us here knows their body that well? I don't, for a start.
All this fancy dieting rubbish has its merits but it's totally unnecessary. Cardio and sensible eating will get us that coveted six pack.
(if you haven't already guessed, I've tried carb cycling and the feeling of ****tiness on the low/no days is something I'd rather not experience again.)
silverwex
Master Don Juan
Thanks to Warboss Alex for the following, cheers man.
CHEST/SHOULDERS/TRICEPS
Incline barbell press 3x8
Flat db press 3x8
Close grip bench 3x8
Seated db press 3x8
BACK/BICEPS
Incline DB curl 3x8
Pinwheel curls 3x8
Lat Pulldown 3x8
Deadlifts 3x8
LEGS
Squats 3x8
Deadlifts (Stiff Leg) 3x8
Calf Raises 3x15
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.