I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I've enjoyed reading your progress.Originally posted by silverwex
Jariel: Nice to see ya on my thread. I dont have a clue what carb cycling is! Is that when you lessen your carb intake and then bring it up for a while, then back down or something? I just cut back on majority of carbs after 6/7pm (go to bed about 1am). Ive only lost about 1.5/2% BF so far (im about 7/8weeks). Not good.
Yes, I'd just like to add that it's an advanced technique for competing bodybuilders or possibly those of us who want to get down to extremely low bodyfats - but for the majority a reasonable diet, heavy training to keep muscle and a structured, progressive HIIT/steady state cardio regimen will get us where we want to be, without feeling like **** on the low/no carb days and the dismal feeling of the logbook owning our arse when we inevitably lose strength.Originally posted by Jariel
I've enjoyed reading your progress.
Carb cycling basically involves a 3 day cycle with one day where you eat lots of carbs, one day of low carbs and one day with virtually no carbs at all.
The high carb days give you the energy for your training and stop you feeling weak (and going insane), but the low/no carb days should reduce fat - with the help of cardio.
It's very hard to monitor your bf during this time as one day you'll look quite swollen, the next quite trim. But as the weeks pass, you should start to look trimmer and trimmer.
There's a more detailed article here:
http://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/par30.htm
Hope that helps. If anyone else has anything to add, I'd be interested in reading more opinions.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.