"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
signs she loves you
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Alphathree
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Lol "Alphathree should not assume"
Actually nevermind, it has nothing to do with your looks, it's your maturity that's coming through.
I date 19 years old hotties who are extremely fickle sometimes, so I forget that there are attractive women older than me who aren't like that=p
A lot of times if there's some teenager with a b*tch shield that I can't pass, I'll say something like, "you won't be hot forever. Men just add character as they age. As for you, maybe you'll become a normal person when you get older."
Sometimes this goes through a bytch shield like Klingon torpedoes in the episode where they steal the Enterprise's shield frequency.
pimpfromdayone
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Hot women just start out very immature and bratty, and date loser after loser, driven only by emotions, living moment to moment
By the time most are 30, their looks are going downhill and they are forced to wise-up and get a good man while they still can
I like your attitude Alphathree, straighten those bad-attitude women out.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.