"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Signs of desperation?

slitherjef

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We all know desperation is bad, but some of us may not know what some of the signs of desperation are. I figured we could get a list compiled of signs desperation so others can catch on

So, pros, lets hear some signs of desperation
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DonGorgon

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Studying the fact that all lies contain fragments
1. You call more than she does..
2. You spend too much money on her early on
3. You try to hold her hand alot
4. You ask her why she didnt pic up the phone or call back
5. when she flakes you get mad..
 

Sir Juanalot

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  1. You lower your standards or values to fit in to her world view.
  2. You are immediately available all of the time.
  3. You care too much about what she thinks.
  4. You ring her too much, give too many gifts.
 

tick37

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1. Saying or doing things that scream "I'm not good enough".
  • Saying, "Please return my call".
  • Making it known that you want a relationship.
  • When you don't receive a call, you get mad.
  • When, "Where is this relationship going?" is something you ask.
  • Asking about exes or getting mad about other dudes.
  • Waiting to hear from her before you make plans.
2. Appearing to care too much.
  • Willingness to bend over backwards.
  • Too eager to please.
  • Available all the time.
3. Giving up too much (offer a mental challenge).
4. A poor attitude about yourself and assuming that you are not attractive enough or good enough. This will cause you to over compensate and start to chase them.
  • Chasing causes them to run. It's easier to attract than chase them down.
  • Over compensating means calling too much or buying their love via gifts.
  • It's about mystery and creating intrigue!
5. Being afraid and making a decision out of the fear of losing the other person. Choose not to be willing to give yourself up.
6. Allowing disrespect from the other person and not making it intolerable. You're not prioritizing your dignity when you're doing this.
7. Not knowing what you want because this will cause you to have a harder time expressing yourself.
8. Jumping in too fast (slow and easy wins this race).
9. Letting them feel they have you under their thumb.
10. Letting them think they are the "whole enchilada".
11. You make yourself too accessible, and this will cause the relationship to always be on the other person's terms.
12. You don't keep previously made plans.
13. You never have plans for "last minute requests" (always tell a girl you already have plans if she wants to make last minute plans).
 

LostAndConfused

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DonGorgon said:
3. You try to hold her hand alot
Isn't that kino? Or do you mean to an excessive amount, like the point where you want every around you look at you two holding hands giving off the "look at me, I have a girlfriend" douchebaggy aura.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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