Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I agree.. just broke up with one of those yesterday.Bigdavis said:The one that acts all crazy about you in the beginning and wants you around all the time but once you start to like her she loses interest and casts you aside like last weeks laundry.... that's the one I always get.
Let me enlarge the list:WC2 said:Signs of a crappy girlfriend:
Low Self Esteem - If she has no self-esteem, then how can you trust her? She'll do most likely anything to get that esteem up.
Untrustworthy - If the girl lies to you once, maybe it was unintentional. If she lies twice, she is a liar and cannot be trusted. Every time you forgive her for her lies, she knows she can just do it again without consequence.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Hah, my brother had an ex-girlfriend with borderline personality disorder. She fit all of these down to a tee.Attention wh@re: This type of woman always seeks validation from all the notice -looks full of lust- she gets from the guys around her and all the looks of hate she gets from every woman in her vicinity. She's going to seek it even from your FRIENDS.
Addicted to harmful substances, habits, or people: If she does not love herself, how can you expect her to love you?
Lazy: How does she expect to live? Comfortably, since you'll be the one bringing the money in the house and make sure that the bills are paid and the house gets cleans. Can you accept it?
Big spender: Unless she's born filthy rich AND she's the beneficiary of a generous trust fund, if she does not work -therefore she doesn't know how money is earned- and on the other hand she knows how to spend ALL YOUR MONEY, you'll be soon spiraling down the dark cliff of DEBTS. If you aren't rich yourself, can you afford her?
Doesn't like your friends: Are you ready to choose her over your lifelong friends?
Self-centered: When she doesn't understand why you need to work so many hours or study to get that degree or that you're too tired to go out after a day of hard work. Favorite line of these girls: "You're an egoist" or "We never do what I like"
Possessive + jealous: When she starts an argument because you allegedly looked at a nice set of legs owned by another woman.