"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sign of disrepsct from GF n how to handle?

The North Dragon

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Only been together 2 months and it was her birthday night out last night with mostly family and some friends. I couldn't stay out late as I had work in the morning which she knew. I also could have to much to drink as I was on tablets for an infection.

Anyway it was a fun night and I tried to get involved as much as possible but girlfriend wasn't showing to much interest towards me, I was cool with it thought since it was her night.

So at half 11 I decided I was going home, we got outside and say goodbye and she told me she would text me when's she was home even if I was asleep. I said that's fine.

When she works at the bar at weekends she always finishes late and always tells me she got home safe.

Anyway , come next morning I heard nothing from her until midday. Not going to lie I was kinda piss*d off coz she never text me despite saying she would, usually doesn't bother me but last night it did and I don't know why. I confronted her calmly n she said she was sorry and was really drunk and can't remember gettin home. She had her girl-friend look after her though.

I left it at that and never asked anything of it. Was this a sign of her disrespecting me of was it just because she got to drunk of her birthday night out and a one off. If not how do I proceed from here?

She's away on a night out for her other friends bday 2 hours away from here tonight. I was supposed to go but I would be th only guy there n couldn't be ass*d with all the other girls there, not like am gonna see them again though.

Should I tell her we need to talk about it or forget it happend?
 

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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

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The North Dragon

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Also forgot to say we usually text a lot but I've backed off a lot just now until I can think clearly.
 

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Forget about what? She was drunk and didnt text. I would make a joke about it next time.

Birthday? All girls? Game everyone!!! Social proof and the fact she wants you to come to show you off to her friends sounds good to me. btw nice tag bro.
 

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The North Dragon said:
Only been together 2 months and it was her birthday night out last night with mostly family and some friends. I couldn't stay out late as I had work in the morning which she knew. I also could have to much to drink as I was on tablets for an infection.

Anyway it was a fun night and I tried to get involved as much as possible but girlfriend wasn't showing to much interest towards me, I was cool with it thought since it was her night.

So at half 11 I decided I was going home, we got outside and say goodbye and she told me she would text me when's she was home even if I was asleep. I said that's fine.

When she works at the bar at weekends she always finishes late and always tells me she got home safe.

Anyway , come next morning I heard nothing from her until midday. Not going to lie I was kinda piss*d off coz she never text me despite saying she would, usually doesn't bother me but last night it did and I don't know why. I confronted her calmly n she said she was sorry and was really drunk and can't remember gettin home. She had her girl-friend look after her though.

I left it at that and never asked anything of it. Was this a sign of her disrespecting me of was it just because she got to drunk of her birthday night out and a one off. If not how do I proceed from here?

She's away on a night out for her other friends bday 2 hours away from here tonight. I was supposed to go but I would be th only guy there n couldn't be ass*d with all the other girls there, not like am gonna see them again though.

Should I tell her we need to talk about it or forget it happend?

2 months in and you are getting insecure as h$ll about a text.......

however, with that being said, why are you seriously dating a bar girl?

also, you are the definition of clingy...i can say with upmost certainty that she is probably at least entertaining the idea of cheating on you...........4 things to learn from this...don't seriously date bar workers...don't become serious after a mere 2 months with anyone...don't be clingy and text all the time...control yourself and try to act more secure
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She got too drunk with her family and friends on her b-day.

Let it go.
 

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You are looking too much into it. Stop texting frequently altogether.

Also, listen to what the boys are tellin you about bar girls. That girl lives in a world of penis options laid out in alphabetical order, size, and on a silver platter. Do not get clingy or too attached.
 

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Free pass.

However I agree with the guys who call into question the wisdom of dating a woman who works at a bar.
 

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It probably bothered you because she said she was going to text but didn't. Let this one go, but if it happens again, you show know that something is up. Get a plate going just in case. Don't put up with any b.s. from her.
 

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text is ONLY for setting up times to hang out IRL. Following this rule will change your game immensely. Never text chat with a girl (unless she's a friend that you are willing to give up ANY chance AT ALL of banging any time soon...and by soon I mean within the next twenty years)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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