"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sign of disrepsct from GF n how to handle?

The North Dragon

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Only been together 2 months and it was her birthday night out last night with mostly family and some friends. I couldn't stay out late as I had work in the morning which she knew. I also could have to much to drink as I was on tablets for an infection.

Anyway it was a fun night and I tried to get involved as much as possible but girlfriend wasn't showing to much interest towards me, I was cool with it thought since it was her night.

So at half 11 I decided I was going home, we got outside and say goodbye and she told me she would text me when's she was home even if I was asleep. I said that's fine.

When she works at the bar at weekends she always finishes late and always tells me she got home safe.

Anyway , come next morning I heard nothing from her until midday. Not going to lie I was kinda piss*d off coz she never text me despite saying she would, usually doesn't bother me but last night it did and I don't know why. I confronted her calmly n she said she was sorry and was really drunk and can't remember gettin home. She had her girl-friend look after her though.

I left it at that and never asked anything of it. Was this a sign of her disrespecting me of was it just because she got to drunk of her birthday night out and a one off. If not how do I proceed from here?

She's away on a night out for her other friends bday 2 hours away from here tonight. I was supposed to go but I would be th only guy there n couldn't be ass*d with all the other girls there, not like am gonna see them again though.

Should I tell her we need to talk about it or forget it happend?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The North Dragon

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Also forgot to say we usually text a lot but I've backed off a lot just now until I can think clearly.
 

DragonBlood

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Forget about what? She was drunk and didnt text. I would make a joke about it next time.

Birthday? All girls? Game everyone!!! Social proof and the fact she wants you to come to show you off to her friends sounds good to me. btw nice tag bro.
 

zinc4

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The North Dragon said:
Only been together 2 months and it was her birthday night out last night with mostly family and some friends. I couldn't stay out late as I had work in the morning which she knew. I also could have to much to drink as I was on tablets for an infection.

Anyway it was a fun night and I tried to get involved as much as possible but girlfriend wasn't showing to much interest towards me, I was cool with it thought since it was her night.

So at half 11 I decided I was going home, we got outside and say goodbye and she told me she would text me when's she was home even if I was asleep. I said that's fine.

When she works at the bar at weekends she always finishes late and always tells me she got home safe.

Anyway , come next morning I heard nothing from her until midday. Not going to lie I was kinda piss*d off coz she never text me despite saying she would, usually doesn't bother me but last night it did and I don't know why. I confronted her calmly n she said she was sorry and was really drunk and can't remember gettin home. She had her girl-friend look after her though.

I left it at that and never asked anything of it. Was this a sign of her disrespecting me of was it just because she got to drunk of her birthday night out and a one off. If not how do I proceed from here?

She's away on a night out for her other friends bday 2 hours away from here tonight. I was supposed to go but I would be th only guy there n couldn't be ass*d with all the other girls there, not like am gonna see them again though.

Should I tell her we need to talk about it or forget it happend?

2 months in and you are getting insecure as h$ll about a text.......

however, with that being said, why are you seriously dating a bar girl?

also, you are the definition of clingy...i can say with upmost certainty that she is probably at least entertaining the idea of cheating on you...........4 things to learn from this...don't seriously date bar workers...don't become serious after a mere 2 months with anyone...don't be clingy and text all the time...control yourself and try to act more secure
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Slickster

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She got too drunk with her family and friends on her b-day.

Let it go.
 

VladPatton

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You are looking too much into it. Stop texting frequently altogether.

Also, listen to what the boys are tellin you about bar girls. That girl lives in a world of penis options laid out in alphabetical order, size, and on a silver platter. Do not get clingy or too attached.
 

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Free pass.

However I agree with the guys who call into question the wisdom of dating a woman who works at a bar.
 

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It probably bothered you because she said she was going to text but didn't. Let this one go, but if it happens again, you show know that something is up. Get a plate going just in case. Don't put up with any b.s. from her.
 

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text is ONLY for setting up times to hang out IRL. Following this rule will change your game immensely. Never text chat with a girl (unless she's a friend that you are willing to give up ANY chance AT ALL of banging any time soon...and by soon I mean within the next twenty years)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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