"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sigmund Freud was right!

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If any of you ever took any psychology classes in high school or in college you are familiar with Sigmund Freud and some of his wierd theories. However, I do think one of them is correct due to first hand experience.

I suffer from an anxiety disorder known as OCD. OCD is characterized by intrusive, unwanted, persistant thoughts that are accompanied by anxiety. These thoughts are bizarre, a product of one's own mind (unlike schizophrenia) and usually not related to real life problems. (e.g. a person has obessions about germs, but feels to need to wash his hands 50X a day, eventhough deep down he knows it is ridiculous).

Well...to get to my point. I remember Freud mentioned something about a person who had disturbing thoughts about stealing. Freud said these thoughts are triggerred due to the persons unconscious guilt about masterbation. Once the person ceases masterbating, the thoughts ceased or were seriously abated.

I notice, when I do not wack it (I am on my 4th day now) my anxiety disorder gets much better and I do not suffer from unwanted repetitive thoughts as much. I think Freud was definitely onto something.......
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I dunno man, youre saying that you felt guilty about masturbating which resulted in OCD? How would guilt about masturbating result in anxiety or something else?
 

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I'm autistic and it's similar to OCD in that I have obsessive and ritualistic thoughts, except the obsessions are transient. I can be obsessed about something for a day, week, month, or even years, and then I will move onto thinking about something else. My current fixation is DJing—of the music variety. But however, I don't find any correlation between repetitive thoughts and not exercising the good ole relief valve. The few times I've gone without, I do seem to be somewhat more relaxed, but with no noticeable change of repetitions. If anything, I would wager my bets that it's more likely an issue of physiology than psychology.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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