"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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*Sigh* What the hell is with all these games?

Jhcl4000

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She texted me around 8:30. I'm not going to post the texts because it was dumb ass small talk and she acted like she never got my earlier text that day. During said small talk I told her she should come over and drink champagne with me - which she actually, and surprisingly, agreed to. We talked for a while then ended up making out and dry humping. Carried her to my bed from the couch at one point and attempted to take off her shirt while making out/dry humping - two different times - but it wasn't happening. She left around 1 in the morning. I was actually kinda glad that she didn't want to give it up at the time.

Texted her today..

Me: Hmm.. I think you owe me a tour of your place ;) ..What are you doing this Sunday night?

Her: Haha oh really? I've got a friend coming into town.. Sorry :(

Me: No problem. Hit me up next time you're free.

Her: I will!

:confused: :crazy:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She texted me around 8:30. I'm not going to post the texts because it was dumb ass small talk and she acted like she never got my earlier text that day. During said small talk I told her she should come over and drink champagne with me - which she actually, and surprisingly, agreed to. We drank, talked for a while then ended up making out and dry humping. Carried her to my bed from the couch at one point and attempted to take off her shirt while making out/dry humping - two different times - but it wasn't happening. She left around 1 in the morning. I was actually kinda glad that she didn't want to give it up at the time.

Texted her today..

Me: Hmm.. I think you owe me a tour of your place ;) ..What are you doing this Sunday night?

Her: Haha oh really? I've got a friend coming into town.. Sorry :(

Me: No problem. Hit me up next time you're free.

Her: I will!

:confused: :crazy:
 

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Jhcl4000 said:
Had an awesome date with a girl on Tuesday. Seriously, it was a really good date - great conversation, lots of laughs, quite a bit of making out, I even kissed and bit her neck. Texted her yesterday..

Me: Hey *name*, I seem to have a bottle of wine here with our names on it.. How about you help me drink it this Sunday night? ;)
Her: Depends on what kind of wine..
Me: Tell you and ruin the surprise? That's no fun.
Her: I don't think I can handle the anticipation :/
Me: *drum roll* ..Cabernet sauvignon!
Her: Oooooohhhh... Ahhhhhh... Wow! What time are you thinking?
Me: Ahaha around 8.

Last text (the one from me) was around 6pm yesterday. No response since then saying yes OR no.

????
horrible horrible horrible.

never lay all your cards on the table

Me: wine
her: ?
Me: what kinda wine do u like
her: *insert name*
Me: wow that's my fav too lol

and why did you ruin the surprise anyway?

Jhcl4000 said:
She texted me around 8:30. I'm not going to post the texts because it was dumb ass small talk and she acted like she never got my earlier text that day. During said small talk I told her she should come over and drink champagne with me - which she actually, and surprisingly, agreed to. We drank, talked for a while then ended up making out and dry humping. Carried her to my bed from the couch at one point and attempted to take off her shirt while making out/dry humping - two different times - but it wasn't happening. She left around 1 in the morning. I was actually kinda glad that she didn't want to give it up at the time.

Texted her today..

Me: Hmm.. I think you owe me a tour of your place ;) ..What are you doing this Sunday night?

Her: Haha oh really? I've got a friend coming into town.. Sorry :(

Me: No problem. Hit me up next time you're free.

Her: I will!

:confused: :crazy:
she don't owe u ****
 

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Jhcl4000 said:
Ugh.. This girl is turning out to just be a b!tch.. She texted me at 11 last night:

11 pm - Her: Hey I'm so sorry just got done with my family! What are you doing?
12 am - Me: Hey, had drinks with a buddy and have been chilling at his place. What nights are you free next week?
Her: Work till 11 tues-sat
Me: Let's do tomorrow night
Her: I should be free

4pm today - Me: I have a few things to get done this afternoon, so I'm thinking like 8 tonight.. That cool?

It's now 7:15 and I've gotten no response. F*ck this chick..
so she texts u at 11 pm and u try to make a date next week?

lulz
 

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Me: What kind?!? Are you a sommelier or wine critic? It's good and flowing and it's going to come out of a bottle? Is that good enough for you, Ms. Kathryn Kennedy
this is one of the cheesiest, corniest, borderline creepy thing I've ever read. What does sommelier mean anyway?

don't take advice from him
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OP: Damnit man, you're not listening! You did good with the small talk and casual vibe; enough to get her to come over and fool around. Then, you went RIGHT back to setting up another date right away, and got rejected again. Just like the first time.

You're trying too hard, and acting over-eager. Even to the extent of fooling around. You're being too pushy. You want to lure yourself into these situations casually - not come off like an aggressive caveman who needs WOMAN. You gotta play around a bit; act more smooth and light-hearted. Let her contact you sometimes. Don't be showing all this interest as you have been. Slow your role.

Even if you really want someone - you have to possess self-control, and show some constraint. Don't make it so obvious this early. Let them chase you a bit. I'm not seeing her pursuing anything with you - because you won't let her / aren't presenting any kind of challenge. When you're doing things right - they want to see you; are contacting you; can't wait to be around, and have sex with you. That's not happening here.
 

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Jhcl4000 said:
I told her because I didn't feel like having to out-wit her about a bottle of f*cking wine lol. I just wanted to set up the date.. "Went wuss" because I told her what kind of wine I was bringing? Interest level drops because I told her what kind of wine I was bringing? That sounds.. Utterly ridiculous... -_-

Not arguing, just saying..
no they are right - that was a bad move you folded there - you were accepting her frame of qualifying yourself to her.... you should have not answered and let her qualify or just sealed the time
 

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Jhcl4000 said:
Texted her about it today. She said: "I'm having dinner with my family tonight. I will call you when I'm done!"
And you believe this sh*t? :crackup:

AFAIC, this girl is uninterested. Stop contacting her. She knows she has you. Your princess is in another castle. Move the f**k on.

Case dismissed. :yawn:
 

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nismo-4 said:
And you believe this sh*t? :crackup:

AFAIC, this girl is uninterested. Stop contacting her. She knows she has you. Your princess is in another castle. Move the f**k on.

Case dismissed. :yawn:
This. Listen to this guy please!!!!!

Do not be deceived OP!!!!

Clearly she was actually having an orgy with 5 black guys and not having dinner with her family.
 

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Jhcl4000 said:
Me: No problem. Hit me up next time you're free.
This is a last resort a play should ever do. To me this is what people do when a girl is semi/not interested in a dude. I've done this before! This should be the last time you ever text the girl first however. Just leave it at that. You've tried and you failed. You learn and you get right back up. Charge her to the game unless she comes back with 110% co-operation.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It wasn't that this girl had low interest.

She DID however get the common ASD (slvt defense) when the OP text her the next day inviting her over. That usually only means one thing.

Mike hit the nail on the head on this one.

Attraction is there, not enough comfort/rapport and combine that with the OP being too aggressive and you have a flakey chick.

This isn't going anywhere if you continue with your current trend.







PIMP
 

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Decided to try one last time so I hit her up a few days ago about going for a walk tonight and she said she'd let me know. Never let me know, obviously not interested/lost interest for some unknown reason.
 

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I'm surprised she met up with you again and that you wanted to when she was being all *****y with her first texts "OOOHHH AAAHHHHHH" - sarchastic crap. There's good advice on this thread though, you Build a rapport - over time and you warm people up before asking for what you want (the date). Sometimes you just text her a joke or whatever and ask her for nothing, or just call to shoot the ****, without an outcome in mind. Your date ideas were all centered around getting her drunk and / or trying to f*ck her, it was pretty obvious to her for sure. That CAN be what you want, but it needs to appear spontaneous to her. Invite her to listen to some live music, check out this amazing new sushi place etc. etc. etc. THEN do that and lead her back home after you have her all wet for you = no asd / it seems spontaneous and won't make her plan her **** block of you later.

You were coming off as too eager to f*ck in general. Also when you are making out and **** make sure that she gets really turned on by you, get her on the bed and pull the skirt / shorts whatev AND the panties off at the same time. Get her MORE wet and just **** her.

For now though, date more girls work on building a rapport / comfort with the girl over time and your dates need to be fun and not obviously trying to get her drunk and at your or her place, EVEN IF you have hooked up before.
 

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Jhcl4000 said:
Decided to try one last time so I hit her up a few days ago about going for a walk tonight and she said she'd let me know. Never let me know, obviously not interested/lost interest for some unknown reason.
Ok, so you still haven't gotten over this girl. You probably aren't spinning them plates either. :down:

Also, when a woman says that she'll let you know, it's a way of saying that I'm not interested. The ball is in her court and your princess is still in another castle.

Appeal denied.
 
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