Sick of this

[Borgia]

I am going to cut the crap, i am fed up.

Why?

Because i am a decent looking guy, fairly confident in most area's of life and have overcome a lot of ****. But i don't get anywhere with girls.

I probably don't come across as approachable. or maybe not someone to have fun with - i dunno anymore.

But, i have made excuses, read up on 'tips' and done all the **** and the end product, the bottom line is little. I expect a lot of myself and i am not achieving it and its getting me down.

I simlpy don't know what to do

 

[Crank_It_Up]

Originally posted by Borgia
....I probably don't come across as approachable...

here's a clue.... don't wait for them to approach you.... get some balls and approach them

 

[Ice Cold]

Here's a plan:

First meet:

Say hi
Exchange "long" glances
Ask her name, age, where she's from... etc
Touch her a few times, see how she reacts.

If positive Meet2:
Take her for a walk somewhere in a park
Hold her hand
Ask her where she wants to be in 5-10 years
Ask her 3 passions
If she didn't have to work for money, what would she do?
Stop and hold her from behind

If she's ok with it, just kiss her

Continue kissing for 2-3 minutes

Touch her titties. SMILE

Every step you can get rejected. She may want you to do it, but ASD will kick in and you'll have to try again later.

Just do it and you'll bang someone soon.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Borgia
I simlpy don't know what to do

Well if you don't KNOW what your problem is, what do you THINK it is?

I think you're BSing us with this "I just don't know" stuff. I think if you look you can identify what it is you're doing wrong...you're either in denial or looking for some kind of magic tip that will "fix" you...which doesn't exist.

So tell us what YOU THINK is the problem.

 

[flexion_]

Key thing - are you happy with yourself without having a woman in your life? You need to figure that part out first IMO.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

read the 15 lessons post by pook in the tips section

 

[Borgia]

Hiya everyone

I wrote that last post while i was a little drunk so it was a little more melodramatic then i would like but i stand by the core of it.

I would like to get a few things straight:

I went through a stage of reading loads of tips - decided then that the time was for action not reading and stopped - i think that its too easy to use the tips here as an excuse not to do anything.

I AM happy, i am happy without a girlfriend and i was happy when i had one,

And, my problems are that i do not give approachable vibes. In a one to one setting, i can be very charming and get a lot of interest but that just doesn;t transfer over to clubs and bars - i am an normally an outgoing person but i just seem to shut down once i am there.

I have tried to anyalise this, tried to force myself (ave done a few times) but the bottom line is that i do not give the approachable vibes so even when I approach someone, it normally falls flat. However, i admit that i do not approach as often as i would like - primaringly, because the first problem often starts getting me down.

Thanks

 

[Borgia]

Just one more thing

I do not have any confidence in my ability to 'close'. None whatsforever, thats not necessaringly saying that i can;t close, but i def don;t have enough confidence in my ability to do so.

 

[Sexual]

There's no way that a decent looking guy that has the Bible down can't get laid. Not possible. Though if for some reason the universe is outta wack- I suggest that you lower your standards to get your confidence up by hooking up with some experianced chicks, sluts or maybe just a 6 with a bangin body, and get your game going. Give love with the glove.

 

[Alpine]

I'm no expert, but from a sales point of view anyone who says they have no confidence to close, but could if they wanted to has a bad case of fear of rejection.

Once this is accepted you can do things like deciding you are going to get rejected 10 times. This works well.

Find the underlying fear. Many people have a shame response or a fear of humiliation. When you realise you are an adult now, and can do whatever you want, it's ok, you may feel a great weight's been lifted off your shoulders.

A couple of positive outcomes and you'll be sailing I'm sure.