Malcontent
Senior Don Juan
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How do you put up with your gal doing this sh1t all the time?
I mean all the attention wh0ring...
I mean all the attention wh0ring...
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Good luck finding one these days who doesn't endlessly post selfie's and memes. It's epidemic.I use social media to my advantage. Whenever I get a new girl, the first thing I do is run multiple online searches on her. Most of them are pretty easy to find online. Within minutes I am able to make a decision just by what I uncover.
So when I see a bunch of selfies, different selfies every day, a bunch of those stupid fuhking meme's about their life, etc........I fuhking say AMEN, GOOD BYE YOU WORTHLESS WH0RE, thanks for saving me some time!
Stop enabling women like this. You don't put up with it, thats how you handle it. End of Story. Whats your next problem?
But then...heavens, they can't check in!! How are they going to show off for their girlfriends unless they are checking in at an expensive restaurant or posting pics of their food???When they start doing this cr@p, tell them if you wanted to go out with a teenager you'd take your daughter out for the evening.
A date just isn't an appropriate place for social media. She can wait till later. She can shut the fvcking phone off. And keep it off until your "personal time together" is done, be it that night, or in the morning. Sex and media doesn't mix. Unless you want to record your sex and send it to her friends. Lol
Yes, it's like I've commented in some other threads that touch on this subject, these people are serious attention wh0res. They post these pics of having awesome times at rock concerts, skydiving, men fighting to the death in an arena for a chance to look at her, planning the next mission for Mars, giving a blessing to the pope....their life is so awesome and everyone else's lives suck.But then...heavens, they can't check in!! How are they going to show off for their girlfriends unless they are checking in at an expensive restaurant or posting pics of their food???
Another thing that drives me nuts is people who selfie at concerts and live tweet from the event. They're not even watching the show. It's like documenting it on social media is more important than experiencing it. It's the same thing they do on dates. Or on vacation. It's about showing off.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That's why I quit Facebook at the beginning of the summer. As a separated and soon-to-be divorced guy then, I stopped being able to relate to my married friends, people getting engaged, vacation/honeymoon photos, foodie friends posting their amazing romantic plate at $$$ restaurant. It made me angry and depressed. Plus, I don't want the ex-wife snooping on me or new plates evaluating my social proof based off the number of friends I have or women who "like" and "comment" on my various postings.I solved this problem by not having Facebook, Instagram, and all the other social media for narcissists.
You took the words right out of my mouth. I thought I was the only one who got both angry/irritated or depressed looking at Facebook. I have/had over 1600 "friends" but never felt more alone than I did surfing FB or Instagram. I deactivated, for at least a month, all of my accounts and will see how it goes.That's why I quit Facebook at the beginning of the summer. As a separated and soon-to-be divorced guy then, I stopped being able to relate to my married friends, people getting engaged, vacation/honeymoon photos, foodie friends posting their amazing romantic plate at $$$ restaurant. It made me angry and depressed. Plus, I don't want the ex-wife snooping on me or new plates evaluating my social proof based off the number of friends I have or women who "like" and "comment" on my various postings.
On the flip side, I don't want to look at woman's page and become pointlessly paranoid about orbiters, ex's etc. Ignorance is bliss? In any case, FB seems to be filled with cheesy memes or people ranting their view on our US political candidates or controversial issues like LGBTQ bathrooms, abortion and immigration. No thanks.
At least she was honest about her need for you to like her posts and show her relationship off to all of her friends. Women and the whole FB thing is really getting over the top.I don't mind if they have an account, but if it's full of selfies and other attention seeking I crap then I don't associate with them. I generally don't have much in common with someone of that mindset anyway, so I haven't met many of them. I hate most social media. I solved this problem by not having Facebook, Instagram, and all the other social media for narcissists. I have a Twitter just to follow some important things. Not having Facebook actually caused a lot of problems with my ex girlfriend. She would say things like, "It would be nice if you would have Facebook so you could like my posts and actually acknowledge our relationship to our friends". I had one lady I met online tell me she wanted to give me her phone number but I had to let her see my "Facebook not on private, you know for security reasons". When I said I don't involve myself with trivial time suckers like Facebook, she said, "Then I'll have to assume you're cheating on someone".
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This...it's a reflection and continuation of the cr@p I saw in my ex and her friends, and really just about anyone I was around afterward. It's a self-love addiction that sets a dangerous precedence for women, and when men get sucked into it the women go into the Private Messaging part. Stupid useless cr@p.@PW I think it's just many women there broadcasting and seeking validation by going after the approval of others. Instead of looking to a higher spiritual source or within for self-acceptance.
Her thinking: "I got the PRIZE, right, everyone??" or "Look, how amazingly hot he is? "He's so much hotter than my ex insert name" or "Holy sh!t, can you believe he just completed Mt. Everest?"
I know some may suggest here to use FB to post social pictures of you with hot women or showing off the new fitness regime, adventure pics.... However, IMO without FB, she has to do more intellectual digging to uncover the mystery and challenge that you should naturally present offline.
I wonder if it's a generational gap with age. Since most teens of both genders communicate online heavily.Strangely enough, there are women who aren't social media wh0res out there.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.