"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I love busting on women about their phones. I know few who can put them down for longer than a few minutes..

Here are some lines I posted as openers about phones, but I suppose these could apply with a woman you were already dating/plating/whatever.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=224778

One I suppose I might say to a woman I am seeing is "Wow, I pitty the fool who is paying your phone bill. Take a break already"
 

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I'm sick of social media myself. I won't even like most crap anymore so as not to give them the validation they seek. It's really atrocious the way people act on these sites these days. Even worse, the stupid meme's or inspirational quotes pictures that they post or share all the time. Like they have just uncovered some great previously unknown wisdom.
Those and the ones who use posts to communicate to some unknown person who probably doesn't even see their dipsh!t. needy posts
 

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I use social media to my advantage. Whenever I get a new girl, the first thing I do is run multiple online searches on her. Most of them are pretty easy to find online. Within minutes I am able to make a decision just by what I uncover.

So when I see a bunch of selfies, different selfies every day, a bunch of those stupid fuhking meme's about their life, etc........I fuhking say AMEN, GOOD BYE YOU WORTHLESS WH0RE, thanks for saving me some time!

Stop enabling women like this. You don't put up with it, thats how you handle it. End of Story. Whats your next problem?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I use social media to my advantage. Whenever I get a new girl, the first thing I do is run multiple online searches on her. Most of them are pretty easy to find online. Within minutes I am able to make a decision just by what I uncover.

So when I see a bunch of selfies, different selfies every day, a bunch of those stupid fuhking meme's about their life, etc........I fuhking say AMEN, GOOD BYE YOU WORTHLESS WH0RE, thanks for saving me some time!

Stop enabling women like this. You don't put up with it, thats how you handle it. End of Story. Whats your next problem?
Good luck finding one these days who doesn't endlessly post selfie's and memes. It's epidemic.
In an aside, I deactivated all of my social media accounts yesterday, just to get a break from all of the madness.
But I agree, it is quite valuable to help sort the bad apples. Especially if they never go back and delete old posts - you can often see how their last several relationships and breakups went just by reading their posts.
I use Facebook's "On This Day" feature to review and delete most old posts. Cleaning up my cyber trail. The FB app crashes after about every 3rd item deleted - it's like they don't want you to delete old posts. I'm sure they hate people using this feature in that way. That makes it even more fun. Fwck Mark Zuckerberg!!
 

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Just incase somebody might not know... If these stupid girls have given their phone number to fakebook, you can type it into the search box and their profile usually pulls up. You don't need their name. Some of them get pretty creative with their name so you can't always find them.

Also be sure to search Pinterest. Veromi is also a good tool to see a list of names connected to them and locations they lived at.

I usually know their age, exact address, if they own a home or not and its value, last boyfriend, how many times they've been divorced, before I even go out with them.
 

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When they start doing this cr@p, tell them if you wanted to go out with a teenager you'd take your daughter out for the evening.

A date just isn't an appropriate place for social media. She can wait till later. She can shut the fvcking phone off. And keep it off until your "personal time together" is done, be it that night, or in the morning. Sex and media doesn't mix. Unless you want to record your sex and send it to her friends. Lol
 

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When they start doing this cr@p, tell them if you wanted to go out with a teenager you'd take your daughter out for the evening.

A date just isn't an appropriate place for social media. She can wait till later. She can shut the fvcking phone off. And keep it off until your "personal time together" is done, be it that night, or in the morning. Sex and media doesn't mix. Unless you want to record your sex and send it to her friends. Lol
But then...heavens, they can't check in!! How are they going to show off for their girlfriends unless they are checking in at an expensive restaurant or posting pics of their food???
Another thing that drives me nuts is people who selfie at concerts and live tweet from the event. They're not even watching the show. It's like documenting it on social media is more important than experiencing it. It's the same thing they do on dates. Or on vacation. It's about showing off.
 

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But then...heavens, they can't check in!! How are they going to show off for their girlfriends unless they are checking in at an expensive restaurant or posting pics of their food???
Another thing that drives me nuts is people who selfie at concerts and live tweet from the event. They're not even watching the show. It's like documenting it on social media is more important than experiencing it. It's the same thing they do on dates. Or on vacation. It's about showing off.
Yes, it's like I've commented in some other threads that touch on this subject, these people are serious attention wh0res. They post these pics of having awesome times at rock concerts, skydiving, men fighting to the death in an arena for a chance to look at her, planning the next mission for Mars, giving a blessing to the pope....their life is so awesome and everyone else's lives suck.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I don't mind if they have an account, but if it's full of selfies and other attention seeking I crap then I don't associate with them. I generally don't have much in common with someone of that mindset anyway, so I haven't met many of them. I hate most social media. I solved this problem by not having Facebook, Instagram, and all the other social media for narcissists. I have a Twitter just to follow some important things. Not having Facebook actually caused a lot of problems with my ex girlfriend. She would say things like, "It would be nice if you would have Facebook so you could like my posts and actually acknowledge our relationship to our friends". I had one lady I met online tell me she wanted to give me her phone number but I had to let her see my "Facebook not on private, you know for security reasons". When I said I don't involve myself with trivial time suckers like Facebook, she said, "Then I'll have to assume you're cheating on someone".
 

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I solved this problem by not having Facebook, Instagram, and all the other social media for narcissists.
That's why I quit Facebook at the beginning of the summer. As a separated and soon-to-be divorced guy then, I stopped being able to relate to my married friends, people getting engaged, vacation/honeymoon photos, foodie friends posting their amazing romantic plate at $$$ restaurant. It made me angry and depressed. Plus, I don't want the ex-wife snooping on me or new plates evaluating my social proof based off the number of friends I have or women who "like" and "comment" on my various postings.

On the flip side, I don't want to look at woman's page and become pointlessly paranoid about orbiters, ex's etc. Ignorance is bliss? In any case, FB seems to be filled with cheesy memes or people ranting their view on our US political candidates or controversial issues like LGBTQ bathrooms, abortion and immigration. No thanks.
 

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That's why I quit Facebook at the beginning of the summer. As a separated and soon-to-be divorced guy then, I stopped being able to relate to my married friends, people getting engaged, vacation/honeymoon photos, foodie friends posting their amazing romantic plate at $$$ restaurant. It made me angry and depressed. Plus, I don't want the ex-wife snooping on me or new plates evaluating my social proof based off the number of friends I have or women who "like" and "comment" on my various postings.

On the flip side, I don't want to look at woman's page and become pointlessly paranoid about orbiters, ex's etc. Ignorance is bliss? In any case, FB seems to be filled with cheesy memes or people ranting their view on our US political candidates or controversial issues like LGBTQ bathrooms, abortion and immigration. No thanks.
You took the words right out of my mouth. I thought I was the only one who got both angry/irritated or depressed looking at Facebook. I have/had over 1600 "friends" but never felt more alone than I did surfing FB or Instagram. I deactivated, for at least a month, all of my accounts and will see how it goes.
 

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I don't mind if they have an account, but if it's full of selfies and other attention seeking I crap then I don't associate with them. I generally don't have much in common with someone of that mindset anyway, so I haven't met many of them. I hate most social media. I solved this problem by not having Facebook, Instagram, and all the other social media for narcissists. I have a Twitter just to follow some important things. Not having Facebook actually caused a lot of problems with my ex girlfriend. She would say things like, "It would be nice if you would have Facebook so you could like my posts and actually acknowledge our relationship to our friends". I had one lady I met online tell me she wanted to give me her phone number but I had to let her see my "Facebook not on private, you know for security reasons". When I said I don't involve myself with trivial time suckers like Facebook, she said, "Then I'll have to assume you're cheating on someone".
At least she was honest about her need for you to like her posts and show her relationship off to all of her friends. Women and the whole FB thing is really getting over the top.
 

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@PW I think it's just many women there broadcasting and seeking validation by going after the approval of others. Instead of looking to a higher spiritual source or within for self-acceptance.

Her thinking: "I got the PRIZE, right, everyone??" or "Look, how amazingly hot he is? "He's so much hotter than my ex insert name" or "Holy sh!t, can you believe he just completed Mt. Everest?"

I know some may suggest here to use FB to post social pictures of you with hot women or showing off the new fitness regime, adventure pics.... However, IMO without FB, she has to do more intellectual digging to uncover the mystery and challenge that you should naturally present offline.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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@PW I think it's just many women there broadcasting and seeking validation by going after the approval of others. Instead of looking to a higher spiritual source or within for self-acceptance.

Her thinking: "I got the PRIZE, right, everyone??" or "Look, how amazingly hot he is? "He's so much hotter than my ex insert name" or "Holy sh!t, can you believe he just completed Mt. Everest?"

I know some may suggest here to use FB to post social pictures of you with hot women or showing off the new fitness regime, adventure pics.... However, IMO without FB, she has to do more intellectual digging to uncover the mystery and challenge that you should naturally present offline.
This...it's a reflection and continuation of the cr@p I saw in my ex and her friends, and really just about anyone I was around afterward. It's a self-love addiction that sets a dangerous precedence for women, and when men get sucked into it the women go into the Private Messaging part. Stupid useless cr@p.
 

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Strangely enough, there are women who aren't social media wh0res out there. They won't be as hot as social media wh0res, but they exist nonetheless.

I personally have opted out of the social media rat race. I have no instagram, twitter, snapchat, whatever. I do have an empty facebook though to scan for social media wh0res. My current plate has a facebook with maybe 15 face photos at the most. Cute conservative girl from Asia. All of the comments on her photos are mostly females from her family. I saw maybe one or two comments from guys, and she didn't even respond to them.
 

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Strangely enough, there are women who aren't social media wh0res out there.
I wonder if it's a generational gap with age. Since most teens of both genders communicate online heavily.

A few weeks ago, I went to see the new Ben Hur movie.

The row in front of me had three dudes in their 20s and a female friend. It was a long movie, almost close to three hours. Insert eye roll. In any case, I saw the guy directly below me break out his cell to text and receive text from I'm guess his girlfriend or a plate at least fifty times.

Point was, this guy was constantly feeding into her attention vacuum via texting with a barrage of emoticons, etc. I thought "damn man. put the freaking phone down and watch the movie, bro. Jesus is about to go to the cross and Ben Hur is trying his best to be smooth DJ and resurrect his life with revenge against a f(riend).... you're driving your needy lady's mystery and interest level down by all those rapid fire texts, chillax and enjoy the movie you paid for."

When I text a girl or reply in a social media app, I don't reply right away, I ignore and let them think I'm too busy to respond which should be the case with work, hobbies, exercise, etc.
 

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I find it amusing to see how girls on social media are consistently recycling the same posts and memes with all the different guys they date.

Example: a girl I dated for thee years would post **** on my wall on a daily basis. The I love you crap, or what a real man she has, etc etc.
I once looked her up. She posts the same ode tickle **** with her new guy. I just thought to myself "what an attention seeking who*re!"

I took a new chick out to a party the other night and one of my friends grabs her phone and says "you 2 look great together! Let me snap a photo of you". He takes the photo.

I'm taking the chick home the next morning and she says "do you mind if I post this photo of us on my FB page".

Me: "Well yes I mind"

Her: "why?"

Me: " exactly! Why post it?"

Her: "so my family can see"

Me: "Ummm ok......how about we put the posting **** on the back burner for a bit." "The other girls I'm seeing might get confused"

That blew up!! She posts it anyway..........and texts me how many likes she gets.

Women live way too much of their lives on this crap.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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