This friday me and this girl were planning to hang out, but everytime we hang out, I always pick her up, which I now find annoying! I want her to come to my house and from there I'll drive her. Should I tell her, "Hey you like me, so why don't you show some interest and come to my pad" Also, she always wants to hang out after I drop her off, this time I will tell her to come to my room and I will proceed with my staff of wisdom. So my question is; it's cool for them to drive too right? I don't want to be the one that ALWAYS picks her up; seems afc wouldn't you agree?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
SICK OF DRIVING! have her drive :)
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
blackbelt2k
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Its been my experience, women are horrible drivers..so if you trust her with your life, then sure let her drive. I personally only trust myself and a select few other males with driving.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Why not? I pick up women probably 20% of the time. Why? How often are you kept waiting when you get to their house? At least they're ready when they get to your place (hopefully). Although I do have a couple that get to my place with curling iron in hand asking if they could finish up their hair before we leave. Sure.... (Back to the X-Box)...Gamble said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
aussiegoat55
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The girl I'm seeing now lives about 40 minutes from me, luckily we have an unspoken agreement of sharing the driving 50/50, which means she plans some of the dates, and pays for some of them too.Gamble said:
Just say, "Hey, why don't you come up/down to (your city)?"
penkitten
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why not? seems fine to me
Kev07
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I don't trust women driving.
I was driving back from LA to norcal (6 hour drive) for 4 hours, I got tired and had trouble keeping my eyes open so I told my friend's girl to take the wheel
Well she ended up missing our exit and go on for an additional 1.5 hours north, where I work up, realized where we were, kicked her out of the drivers seat and drove back 1.5 hours back home
oh she also almost ran a stopsign, stopped in the middle of the intersection and almost hit a car
I was driving back from LA to norcal (6 hour drive) for 4 hours, I got tired and had trouble keeping my eyes open so I told my friend's girl to take the wheel
Well she ended up missing our exit and go on for an additional 1.5 hours north, where I work up, realized where we were, kicked her out of the drivers seat and drove back 1.5 hours back home
oh she also almost ran a stopsign, stopped in the middle of the intersection and almost hit a car
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Portable GPS receivers are definitely come in handy in such situations.Kev07 said:
Or maybe not. Maybe wait a little bit after she's had her learner's permit for a while.Kev07 said:
I'm Joe Dirt
Master Don Juan
I don't have a car and the girl I have been with the last year and a half almost drives us both everywhere. It's a pretty sweet deal, assuming she is a safe driver. I help out by paying for gas once in a while though.
I think as long as you both can live with the arrangement things will work out any way you divy up the driving. If she really hates to drive, you may have to, but if she is cool with it, you could probably get away with it. Just avoid making it a big deal and things will work themselves out.
I think as long as you both can live with the arrangement things will work out any way you divy up the driving. If she really hates to drive, you may have to, but if she is cool with it, you could probably get away with it. Just avoid making it a big deal and things will work themselves out.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Last October I went to Cape May for the weekend with a few friends of mine. We were getting into the car near the boardwalk (if you can really call it one) this man who must have been in his 70's was sitting there on a bench with his wife. As soon as he saw a girl get into the driver's seat he started yelling at me, telling me that "MEN should always be the one driving". I later reflected on what this man said, and realized that he was absolutely right. I haven't let a women drive since.
Last time I let a woman drive I ended up in hospital for six months in traction with broken back , arm, wrist and fingers. It took me a month to learn how to walk again. I never get in a car driven by a women, I would rather walk... !!
I had been dating a girl that when I started dating, would always pick her up because I had thought it was the gentlemenly thing to do. Well, that got really annoying after about 2-3 weeks (she lived 30 minutes away, so it was like an hour round trip!) Anyway, it was a huge turn off that she never offered to drive up to see me, I thought it was disappointing that I finally had to tell her she had to come to my place. I guess she had to borrow her parent's car.
When we went out places I was always the one to drive, though. You're in control, right?
When we went out places I was always the one to drive, though. You're in control, right?