"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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shyness?

check_mate_kid_uk

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i dont ussaly ask for help, but right now i need a second oppinion, i approched a girl at school her freind was enthusiastic towards me, the girl i was intrested in was not, infact she seemed shy/embarased.

i have seen from her what i would take to be positive signs for high intrest levle, and i am asuming she likes me a lot and is there for embarased to even look at me and talk to me.

am i right or could the fact she was turning away from me and only said hi quietly and stayed out of the conversation only answering brefily when i asked her a direct question mean she is not intrested, as the way i see it she was so shy that it could not just be a sign of low intrest levle.

what do you think
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TheNonPedant

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ask her out to chill some time...drinks...or something to be just you and her.

You're very young....maybe ask to go to a movie.

And if she is shy...more likely she wants friendship to form then a relationship..

take it slow
 

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I think you should stop asking how high or low her interest level is and pick your cojones up and just straight up ask her if she wants to hang with you oneday after school.

You: "Me and some mates are going Go Karting this Friday, wanna come along too? ****loads of fun to be had by all!" Just keep it casual.

She would still look at you if she was shy IMO, but you won't know til you ask her. Keep it casual, don't scare the shy ones by coming too full on.

P.S. When you're not practicing your DJ skills you should brush up on your "Spelling and Grammar" game. No offence.
 

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i dont know about how things are where you are, but its not so common to ask some 1 to just hangout with you when you have never even spoken to them properly. You need at least one decent convo for that, otherwise it seems rather odd doing so ie its not the norm!
 

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Yeah sorry it was your friend who "Hi". Well develop some rapport with her first then, just some fluff talk(But keep the fluff talk interesting!) and then once you've talked to her for a bit after a few days, then spring the question on her. Just keep it casual...

If she doesn't open up to you then, even if she is shy, take it as low interest. If she declines your casual get-together-with-some-mates idea then move on.

I find with the shy girls it's best to do something involving some people she knows as well, not just with you and your friends.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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