"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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shyness?

check_mate_kid_uk

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i dont ussaly ask for help, but right now i need a second oppinion, i approched a girl at school her freind was enthusiastic towards me, the girl i was intrested in was not, infact she seemed shy/embarased.

i have seen from her what i would take to be positive signs for high intrest levle, and i am asuming she likes me a lot and is there for embarased to even look at me and talk to me.

am i right or could the fact she was turning away from me and only said hi quietly and stayed out of the conversation only answering brefily when i asked her a direct question mean she is not intrested, as the way i see it she was so shy that it could not just be a sign of low intrest levle.

what do you think
 

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TheNonPedant

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ask her out to chill some time...drinks...or something to be just you and her.

You're very young....maybe ask to go to a movie.

And if she is shy...more likely she wants friendship to form then a relationship..

take it slow
 

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I think you should stop asking how high or low her interest level is and pick your cojones up and just straight up ask her if she wants to hang with you oneday after school.

You: "Me and some mates are going Go Karting this Friday, wanna come along too? ****loads of fun to be had by all!" Just keep it casual.

She would still look at you if she was shy IMO, but you won't know til you ask her. Keep it casual, don't scare the shy ones by coming too full on.

P.S. When you're not practicing your DJ skills you should brush up on your "Spelling and Grammar" game. No offence.
 

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i dont know about how things are where you are, but its not so common to ask some 1 to just hangout with you when you have never even spoken to them properly. You need at least one decent convo for that, otherwise it seems rather odd doing so ie its not the norm!
 

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Yeah sorry it was your friend who "Hi". Well develop some rapport with her first then, just some fluff talk(But keep the fluff talk interesting!) and then once you've talked to her for a bit after a few days, then spring the question on her. Just keep it casual...

If she doesn't open up to you then, even if she is shy, take it as low interest. If she declines your casual get-together-with-some-mates idea then move on.

I find with the shy girls it's best to do something involving some people she knows as well, not just with you and your friends.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

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