"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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shy/non sociable girl(s). WTF?

solo1

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A week ago, this girl was showing such obvious signs, playing w/hair & glancing in my direction. yadda yadda yadda introduced myself , got her name & major she was in...

Today i happen to sit next to her again. said "hey hows it going" with smile and she said hi back with a smile. Then from then up until the break i had slight anxiety...which probably caused me to yawn & stretch so many times.

Then during the break I attempted to start a convo w/her.
to cut it short, what i asked was what she felt/thought about the school/major/ and the city. As she was talking...i also noticed some slight bucktoothness on her upper teeth heh.

She gave me some unexpected answers. Which indicated that she didnt really like the school or the major. But after getting that out of my system, i felt really good about myself because i didnt care about the outcome. And even now i still feel really good/enthusiastic in general.

Anyway after that i wasnt feeling her. I saw her flaws and I did the asking and she did the answering. And at the end of class she left the room w/o saying bye. And i left teh elevator w/o saying bye. But throughout the whole class she kept moving and twitching, but eh who knows what it all means. Sure i couldve asked other stuff about her not related to school or teased her. But i didnt feel like it wouldve been appropriate knowing she's the shy type with no real rapport yet.

Aside from this situation...how do you guys usually deal with shy girls who are hesitant to open up/ talk easily in a convo?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SamePendo

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I talk to other women.

If they dont react to this, it wasnt just a **** test, they´re psychooooo.
 

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As she was talking...i also noticed some slight bucktoothness on her upper teeth heh.
This is almost sig worthy.
 

solo1

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haha. smile for the camera

Talkng to other girls or your others usually seems to work if they have really high IL, then again it might not.
 

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Well even if you have lost interest in this particular broad, from my experiences in dealing with shy girls, talking to them really isn't that hard. I just usually probe around with light and "topical" questions( everybody, even mentally defunct mutes, has an opinion and or something to say.) Now in most cases (about 85% of the time) once your questioning and probing hits the right nerve, you can just stand back and "leter rip." You'll find that the most quiet women can talk you into a hole as bad as the most vein and loud mouth blonde.
As far the rapport thing goes meh I wouldn't worry about it just takes a little longer to chat up and build one (comfort issue,) but once one is built, providing that she is a naturally shy and quiet person, she'll basically latch on to you (especially if she is single.)

Puedo
Yes talking to other women can help but in some cases (my personal experiences) it can also be the equivalent of falling on your own sword. From what I have read, one of the reasons I think she didn't readily open up was because she was intimidated, which is not a bad thing :D
 
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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