"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Shy. No, not me!

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Okay now,

I searched around the forums and couldn't find anything about this kind of situation.

Here's the flap, she is real shy and very polite, and i'm no slouch myself. We are both officers in a rather new college club, so it is almost reliable that we will meet consistantly for a deal of time. This eliminates any form of a deadline. According to me (which isn't a very credible source), this should be a different case. Is there anything I should take into consideration because of this? Almost everything i've seen here deals with the scenerio where the guy is shy.

It is probably good to note that I have never had a gf before and my experience on anything relating to this stuff comes from numberous failed attemps (hey, at least I tried) and what I have read on here. My failed attemps ended about two years ago and since then, i've had excellent success just treating them all like normal classmates without any other kind of thoughts in mind. So I don't have any shakes or shivers about talking to women. But jeeze, I just have to chance this one and I want to make sure I get good advice about it. Maybe Mr. 0-99 might go 1-100 :D .
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Grey Fox

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Just say hey to her occassionally, be brief. See her again another time say hey, bring up something you talked about last time and ask how thats going. Do that until she can breath around you and then ask her out.

-Grey Fox
 
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You know, now that i've read that, it's freakin' obvious. A bit long witted; but heck, i've got nowhere to go in the near future.
Tanks.

If anyone wanted to add more, that'd be great.
 

Wiesman44

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private message me on all u need to know about the shy girl.......I'm learning a lot from one b/c im in the process of getting with her
 

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Originally posted by Wiesman44
private message me on all u need to know about the shy girl.......I'm learning a lot from one b/c im in the process of getting with her
Why private message? Just post it all here on the board so everyone can learn from it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I'm having trouble understanding your message (probably because English isn't my first language), but I agree with Grey Fox. Take it slow and easy, and don't rush things. It should work out fine if you don't screw up or offend her.
 
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Wiesman44:
I decided to post, since I am taking it slowly (time is not of the essence here) I there really aren't any pressing questions at the moment. If you don't mind, perhaps you could post your experiences here and the rest of us can chime on in.

Well, heck. There is something I can see being a problem. During our last meeting, I found it a bit difficult to keep a conversation going. I've read all the stuff about nodding and exploring what she is talking about; but even still it eventually died off. Rather than trying to keep on shooting the bull without really knowing how, I decided to let it go. How did you keep her in the conversation?
 
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