Shy good girls?

manfromitaly

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I went out with a girl 3 times, she likes me a lot, she writes to me every day and always wants to see me but we haven't had sex yet.

She is a good girl who is sometimes shy, speaks little and is very affectionate.

I feel good but I don't understand what you're waiting for to have sex.

I already tried to take her home but she didn't want to.

I don't have a real specific question about this girl but more generally about this type of situation.

What's the point of waiting so long for sex?

What if we don't get along well in bed?

They don't understand that they can make us wait a month but if after having sex we want to dump them we do it anyway.

Do they think they want to create emotional dependence or make you fall in love before sex?
 

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Women don't make sense.

I had a girl in college who I hung out with who said she didn't want to move too fast because she liked me. When I told her I didn't want anything serious right now she just went "oh ok, then let's fu**".

If you're 33 and this girl hasn't been sexual with you after 3 dates, and hasn't provided a good reason beyond "she didn't want to" then I don't know why you're still wasting time with her.
 

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She wants to go slowly, she is or plays the part of the good girl. I feel good about it but if we don't get to sex on the next date I won't go out with her anymore.
 

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She wants to go slowly, she is or plays the part of the good girl. I feel good about it but if we don't get to sex on the next date I won't go out with her anymore.
Tell her indirectly in advance that you aren't waiting around.

You also need to make sure you have done your part by getting her turned on and wanting sex. Simply telling her you want to fuhk doesn't count.

How close have you been to having sex with her? What did you do to lead up to it?
 
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What's the point of waiting so long for sex?
You're not exciting her enough.
You're not rocking her world.
You're not her prize.
You're... not.
Maybe, not yet.
Maybe not at all.
Maybe never.
 

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Next time you hang out with her, try to use some spiritual comments to help her feel safer and more bonded with you. You need to engage her a little to open up. Maybe try something like, “every moment with you feels like time stands still and nothing else matters,” “Let’s create a moment that feels like a dream, just you and me and the night,” or the classic, “I just watched a movie that reminded me of you, and it made me realize how strong our connection is.” If you get physical and she is still hesitant, fall back on telling her how good the connection is and how bonded you feel. It sound better in our romantic languages.

If all else fails, next time you see her act cold or even better, get mad at her for some petty stuff; like break up with her because she is too shy for you. This might encourage her to put in more effort in the relationship and try to win you over.

As for her perspective, she probably sees you as a conqueror who easily attracts others, and the worst thing she could do is make herself an easy target, fearing you might discard her quickly. She likely wants to give you a good chase and test your patience.
 
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I went out with a girl 3 times, she likes me a lot, she writes to me every day and always wants to see me but we haven't had sex yet.

She is a good girl who is sometimes shy, speaks little and is very affectionate.

I feel good but I don't understand what you're waiting for to have sex.

I already tried to take her home but she didn't want to.

I don't have a real specific question about this girl but more generally about this type of situation.

What's the point of waiting so long for sex?

What if we don't get along well in bed?

They don't understand that they can make us wait a month but if after having sex we want to dump them we do it anyway.

Do they think they want to create emotional dependence or make you fall in love before sex?
No such thing. They are "shy" to you; not to someone they fall for.
 

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You're not exciting her enough.
You're not rocking her world.
You're not her prize.
You're... not.
Maybe, not yet.
Maybe not at all.
Maybe never.
If I had the power, good sir, I would force you to move to Italy.
 

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Sorry but given the comments I think I expressed myself poorly.

She's crazy about me. She's always kissing me, hugging me, she's super needy.

She writes to me 4 times a day, smileys with hearts and various bull****.

In my opinion she has little experience in bed despite being 27 years old.
 

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She's probably afraid he'll leave her after sex or is trying to be hard to get
 

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How do you expect to have sex with what you call 'a good girl' after 3 dates ? She's either a good girl or she has sex within 3 dates, both can't be true at the same time.

They don't understand that they can make us wait a month but if after having sex we want to dump them we do it anyway.
Making you wait = screening for players, fvckboys, those who pretend to be something they're not. If she's waiting 1 month, most of them will reveal their true colors. If she's waiting 3 months, virtually all will.

Sorry but given the comments I think I expressed myself poorly.

She's crazy about me. She's always kissing me, hugging me, she's super needy.

She writes to me 4 times a day, smileys with hearts and various bull****.

In my opinion she has little experience in bed despite being 27 years old.
And then there's always the possibility she is an alpha widow and has abandonment or mental issues. There's a big difference between a virgin girl who waits because she wants to vet the guy and the woman who has already had sex with several men and now makes you wait as some sort of power play or as result of baggage she accumulated from previous relationships.
 

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If I had the power, good sir, I would force you to move to Italy.
That wouldn't require force. I like their food, I like their coffee, I spent a lot of time riding their mountains.
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If Italy wasn't such a corrupt sh!thole, I would've moved there just for the weather, but living in Italy is not as much fun as going there on vacation.
 

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She definitely likes you (probably physically attracted too) but too shy to make the first step, or maybe raised with the mindset that "the man should always make the first move".

Give it a go more and if she continuously declines your offer to meet at home or somewhere more intimate then move on to another woman more worth your time and effort and tell her you're not out there just to be friends.

I really don't know what goes inside these types of women's heads, but it's like some women think grown adult men wanna be cute innocent friends with them like little kids in a schoolyard for no reason.
 
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