"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Shy girls

the_afc

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Hey, I need help on something ….

There is this girl I know and I'm interested in, but she is very shy!
She is extremely shy, quiet, don’t talk much and don’t let others know how she is feeling.
She is also very depended on her friends. I tried to talk to her couple of times but she only gave some short answers in return. She not like that just with me, she is with everybody.

How to I handle girls like that?
Any suggestions?

Thx
the_afc
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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G-Man UK

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As Black Italian would say 'slap her with your pen1s'

Ninja Out
 

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Ask her out... she'll be more friendly when you're both alone.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I also think you should get her alone, away from her friends. This way she will stop thinking about how she should act, and will feel better (and will associate that with you!).
 

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Originally posted by the_afc
Hey, I need help on something ….

There is this girl I know and I'm interested in, but she is very shy!
She is extremely shy, quiet, don’t talk much and don’t let others know how she is feeling.
She is also very depended on her friends. I tried to talk to her couple of times but she only gave some short answers in return. She not like that just with me, she is with everybody.

How to I handle girls like that?
Any suggestions?

Thx
the_afc
Get her into a situation where she feels comfortable for your initial date. If she's got a favorite coffee shop/bar/club/hangout that you can go to, go there. The familiar location should help put her more at ease and more comfortable with herself.

This is a case where I would do some homework and ask one of her friends, casually, if there is any place they all like to hang at, that way you can suggest someplace she likes right off the bat.

Once you get her out, open up to her moreso than you would with a more extroverted broad. She'll be more receptive to your company and more likely to open up if you're being open with her.
 
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