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Shy girls...ATTRACT or RAPPORT first?

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Alright fella's here's the catch:
I read from the Mystery Method thing about the 3 crucial steps:

ATTRACTION------->RAPPORT------->SEDUCTION
This 3 step method is pure genius, since it generalizes the DJ methods in 3 simple words!

attraction: C&F, kino, positive attitude, social proof, etc.

rapport: conversations (fun, deep, related, meaningful, etc) and dates.

seduction: massages, inviting her over, foreplay, sex, watever.

So now that I sort of showed what the 3 step process is all about, I want to get to my question.

Shy girls! They are a pain in the neck sometimes, especially in the attraction stage. In my situations, shy girls sometimes don't go with the flow when I'm doing C&F and Kino (I use them lightly so I don't go overboard with these emotional rollercoasters). Some said I should build the RAPPORT first (in which I'm stepping a crucial stage called ATTRACTION) then ATTRACT. Others say I should use ATTRACT methods (putting myself at a risk, since the shygirl(s) might get offended by the attraction stuff), and if she doesn't like it, move on.

I am not quite sure which one to rely on, since there are pro's and con's for either methods. Therefore, I ask you DJ's....

When it comes to shy girls, which method should come first:

ATTRACTION: (C/F, kino, blah blah blah)

or

RAPPORT: (Convo's, get to know her better, relate thru convos, blah blah blah)

???
 

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Shy Girls = Emphasis on rapport, with limited attraction.
Party Girls = Emphasis on Attraction, little rapport.

Normal girls have a balanced(ish) mixture of each.
 

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Always attract first, yes you do have to build rapport with a shy girl but you should always lay down the ****y funny right away. As you get more involved let the rapport show in your ****y funny. Make jokes, tease her in ways that she feels are unique to her.
 

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Rapport. You have to make them feel comfortable around you and allow them to express themselves.
 

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kino is so important.

You need to be doing it on the first date. Tell her a story (rapport), as you are talking, touch her hand.

Hold her hand when your walking somewhere.

Touch her leg in the car, not in a sexual way just as your telling her a story sort of touch her leg quickly.

I do this alot, and it works.
 

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