"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Shy girls and Body Language

defiancy

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i wonder how body language is affected when you have a shy girl as a target

Most of the time i try to maintani eye contact with her, but she only looks at me for a while and slowly diverts her eyes away and pretends to look at something else
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do you know she's shy? She may just not be interested.
 

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Not all types of eye contact are friendly.

Maybe you're trying to hard and giving her that stalker look. It happens. Maybe she thinks: "why the fvck is this guy STARING at me."

There's a big difference between staring and eye contact, dude. Don't stare, it ain't natural. Watch a movie or sitcom or sopie and notice that when characters speak to each other, they don't hold their eye contact constantly.
 

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hey if you want to get a good information about body language and eye contact.... download the "28 surefire ways to instant dating success". its free. You can use that material in your everyday DJ attitude.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Freeman

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Originally posted by defiancy
i wonder how body language is affected when you have a shy girl as a target

Most of the time i try to maintani eye contact with her, but she only looks at me for a while and slowly diverts her eyes away and pretends to look at something else
FIrst off I don't buy into that whole shy girl shyte> I have seen some of the most "shy girls" at parties acting totally out of control. Now with that said-Treat that girljust like all the rest-if she likes you she will be receptive to your touches-if she doesn't she will be withdrawn..There you GO!
 

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Originally posted by defiancy
i wonder how body language is affected when you have a shy girl as a target

Most of the time i try to maintani eye contact with her, but she only looks at me for a while and slowly diverts her eyes away and pretends to look at something else
FIrst off I don't buy into that whole shy girl shyte> I have seen some of the most "shy girls" at parties acting totally out of control. Now with that said-Treat that girl just like all the rest-if she likes you she will be receptive to your touches-if she doesn't she will be withdrawn..There you GO!
 

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Originally posted by wind20mph
hey if you want to get a good information about body language and eye contact.... download the "28 surefire ways to instant dating success". its free. You can use that material in your everyday DJ attitude.
More and more mental barriers. Once you learn confidence all these rules become useless. Shy people are simply not comfortable in their skin, but what does that have to do with you, absoultly nothing.

Once you learn to be comfortable in your skin, getting women, money, or anything else is ez.

"FREE YOUR MIND"
 

defiancy

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Originally posted by wind20mph
hey if you want to get a good information about body language and eye contact.... download the "28 surefire ways to instant dating success". its free. You can use that material in your everyday DJ attitude.

are you sure ...i saw that it wasnt unless i was looking at the wrong site
 
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