"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Shy girls and Body Language

defiancy

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i wonder how body language is affected when you have a shy girl as a target

Most of the time i try to maintani eye contact with her, but she only looks at me for a while and slowly diverts her eyes away and pretends to look at something else
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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tmpgstx

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How do you know she's shy? She may just not be interested.
 

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Not all types of eye contact are friendly.

Maybe you're trying to hard and giving her that stalker look. It happens. Maybe she thinks: "why the fvck is this guy STARING at me."

There's a big difference between staring and eye contact, dude. Don't stare, it ain't natural. Watch a movie or sitcom or sopie and notice that when characters speak to each other, they don't hold their eye contact constantly.
 

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hey if you want to get a good information about body language and eye contact.... download the "28 surefire ways to instant dating success". its free. You can use that material in your everyday DJ attitude.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by defiancy
i wonder how body language is affected when you have a shy girl as a target

Most of the time i try to maintani eye contact with her, but she only looks at me for a while and slowly diverts her eyes away and pretends to look at something else
FIrst off I don't buy into that whole shy girl shyte> I have seen some of the most "shy girls" at parties acting totally out of control. Now with that said-Treat that girljust like all the rest-if she likes you she will be receptive to your touches-if she doesn't she will be withdrawn..There you GO!
 

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Originally posted by defiancy
i wonder how body language is affected when you have a shy girl as a target

Most of the time i try to maintani eye contact with her, but she only looks at me for a while and slowly diverts her eyes away and pretends to look at something else
FIrst off I don't buy into that whole shy girl shyte> I have seen some of the most "shy girls" at parties acting totally out of control. Now with that said-Treat that girl just like all the rest-if she likes you she will be receptive to your touches-if she doesn't she will be withdrawn..There you GO!
 

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Originally posted by wind20mph
hey if you want to get a good information about body language and eye contact.... download the "28 surefire ways to instant dating success". its free. You can use that material in your everyday DJ attitude.
More and more mental barriers. Once you learn confidence all these rules become useless. Shy people are simply not comfortable in their skin, but what does that have to do with you, absoultly nothing.

Once you learn to be comfortable in your skin, getting women, money, or anything else is ez.

"FREE YOUR MIND"
 

defiancy

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Originally posted by wind20mph
hey if you want to get a good information about body language and eye contact.... download the "28 surefire ways to instant dating success". its free. You can use that material in your everyday DJ attitude.

are you sure ...i saw that it wasnt unless i was looking at the wrong site
 
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