"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Shy/distant coworkers starting to annoy me

zinc4

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I work with these 2 pretty hot chicks among others and they both used to have semi crushes on me from what i have been told...however, lately they are both so shy and distant acting that it is really starting to annoy me...

For whatever reason, they both are trying to ignore me now or act very distant and it's just plain distracting...i just like to go into work and finish without any distractions...

Example...i was in the bathroom the other day and someone knocks on the door...3 minutes later i come out and it's one of the girls i am mentioning waiting right there for the bathroom facing me...she sees me and does an instant about face and turns around n my face without saying anything and walks away without acknowledging me or anyhting...just freakin awkward feeling...i don't even want to be with her or bang her...but these little acts of ignoring or whatever they are, are really just starting to tick me off...i felt like saying, for gods sake go use the freakin bathroom like what you were waiting to do and quit acting so damn weird...she does little crap like this to me all the time...i am just cordial acting toward her, nothing special...

Another one who is a secretary will come into my room while i am teaching because its her job and bring the controller to the AC...don
't ask weird rule made by our boss....but lately she will ignore me and walk right past me in this super shy manner and hand the controller to the co-teacher even if i stick my hand out for it...and i know i shouldn't care and be indifferent, but these 2 are actually starting to make me angry feeling...i feel like telling both of them to grow up and act professional...i guess i should mention that i am in Taiwan and the girls here tend to be very shy acting around guys they like or are attracted to if they don't know them too well...

Any ideas on how to break their shields or whatever they are just to not make an awkward work environment?

And i am not interested in dating either of them as i have to change my original contract and stay at this job longer than planned for financial reasons.
I almost just feel like telling both of them i am gay just to make them freakin relax.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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foreverAFC

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i get this all day long from work, i get it from some of them men too. i just ignore it now. there are a lot of timid and shy people out there.
 

Zerro

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I don't really get along with any of the young women at my work, there's only a couple I can even hold a conversation with while the rest I don't bother to give the time of day to anymore. They all used to be nicer when we started working there (a lot of them were hired around the same time as me) but things mysteriously deteriorated. I used to wonder if there was some rumor going around but I never heard anything. However I don't give a damn anymore as I don't need their attention anyway.

The older women on the other hand just seem to adore me for some reason, maybe they're just old enough to have decent taste in men unlike these young *****es.
 

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yeah, guess i just shouldn't let it bother me...i almost feel like i want their validation for some reason....god that sounds petty...i have many goals outside of women and have a great girl i am seeing plus some plates on the side who i try not to mess with too much...don't know why i am not immune to seeking validation...
 

Mr. Bond

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You answered your own question. Stop caring about what they think or do. That doesn't mean sink down to their level and be petty like they are.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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