"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Showing your Romantic side

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Being Romantic and I mean my philosphy of life not just being able to create or deliver the perfect warm gesture which would melt a womans heart. When is the best time to display this side of my personality?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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When you're trying to get laid.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
lol @ that :)

Where's the line between romantic and naive? Maybe the point at which it detracts from getting laid?
Call me air-headed, but how does romantic and naive relate?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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what are your goals? are you going for a hook-up? or an actual girlfriend?
 

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LivA said:
Call me air-headed, but how does romantic and naive relate?

because women like players and *******s, not nice guys and romantics ;)
 

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sav said:
because women like players and *******s, not nice guys and romantics ;)
Yeah, it's an age thing. :yes:
 

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Depends. It you think that you are going to get a woman interested in you by being romantic, it’s not going to work. If you have an ongoing relationship with a woman then romance is part of that game you play with each other.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yes, part of the game, exactly. In the push and pull, romance has its place. The more of a Mr Perfect that you seem when things go well, then the more it hurts when she misbehaves and you freeze her out. It's a yin & yang opposites thing. The zen expression is that a wall and a window define each other, for one means nothing without the other - a window is a hole in a wall. Opposites define each other, and if you're too much of an ambivalent player all the time, then the freeze out card does not pack the same power.
 

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potato said:
It you think that you are going to get a woman interested in you by being romantic, it’s not going to work.
This is so true. I hate guys that try to be romantic immediately. That cheesey crap is fake and a total turn off.

A common reaction to it is "awww, you are so sweet... I think we should just be friends." (woman-ese for please back off a little...)

It has its place later as you get to like each other more.
 
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