"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Showing your Romantic side

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Being Romantic and I mean my philosphy of life not just being able to create or deliver the perfect warm gesture which would melt a womans heart. When is the best time to display this side of my personality?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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When you're trying to get laid.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
lol @ that :)

Where's the line between romantic and naive? Maybe the point at which it detracts from getting laid?
Call me air-headed, but how does romantic and naive relate?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ready123

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what are your goals? are you going for a hook-up? or an actual girlfriend?
 

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LivA said:
Call me air-headed, but how does romantic and naive relate?

because women like players and *******s, not nice guys and romantics ;)
 

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sav said:
because women like players and *******s, not nice guys and romantics ;)
Yeah, it's an age thing. :yes:
 

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Depends. It you think that you are going to get a woman interested in you by being romantic, it’s not going to work. If you have an ongoing relationship with a woman then romance is part of that game you play with each other.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yes, part of the game, exactly. In the push and pull, romance has its place. The more of a Mr Perfect that you seem when things go well, then the more it hurts when she misbehaves and you freeze her out. It's a yin & yang opposites thing. The zen expression is that a wall and a window define each other, for one means nothing without the other - a window is a hole in a wall. Opposites define each other, and if you're too much of an ambivalent player all the time, then the freeze out card does not pack the same power.
 

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potato said:
It you think that you are going to get a woman interested in you by being romantic, it’s not going to work.
This is so true. I hate guys that try to be romantic immediately. That cheesey crap is fake and a total turn off.

A common reaction to it is "awww, you are so sweet... I think we should just be friends." (woman-ese for please back off a little...)

It has its place later as you get to like each other more.
 
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