"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So I pretty much hate flirting, I feel like it puts a girl on a pedestal that she does not deserve and is overall demeaning towards a man of my caliber. Yeah I'm a bit of a narcissist, not knocking you fellas who do it but ain't my cup of tea. Anyhow if I want some action I know I have to do it a little bit just to reel her in. My assumption is that if I go out of my way to talk to a girl, regardless of the situation she knows I'm on some level interested. I don't need to tell her she's hot or some stupid **** like that (Oye, I use to do that, felt like a *****). So basically I just am taking the strategy to have normal conversation and then have her give me her number at my leisure. Advice? I'd like to take the laid back approach in dating from now on but I could use a few tweeks to my game.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I should not be giving advice, but let me put this out there and maybe this will help you, or help me for being criticized.

I would just make a detached causal conversation and gauge her interest level and what kind of connection she and I might have. Maybe I will make some off the wall comment, and then go from there, pointing out something interesting that she is doing, or I am doing, or maybe even something in the environment.

Example:

standing in line in a grocery store and picking up a food item or magazine and show her something healthy or unhealthy, and then going from there.
 

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Todd_Ingram said:
So I pretty much hate flirting, I feel like it puts a girl on a pedestal that she does not deserve and is overall demeaning towards a man of my caliber. Yeah I'm a bit of a narcissist, not knocking you fellas who do it but ain't my cup of tea. Anyhow if I want some action I know I have to do it a little bit just to reel her in. My assumption is that if I go out of my way to talk to a girl, regardless of the situation she knows I'm on some level interested. I don't need to tell her she's hot or some stupid **** like that (Oye, I use to do that, felt like a *****). So basically I just am taking the strategy to have normal conversation and then have her give me her number at my leisure. Advice? I'd like to take the laid back approach in dating from now on but I could use a few tweeks to my game.
Flirting is a back and forth thing. You put in some work sometimes then you pull back and let her put in some of her own work.The point is she's supposed to know that you are on some level interested and that way she can reciprocate. Remember the opposite of being an AFC who pours his feelings out is an AFC who's too scared to be sexual and too scared to show intent.
 

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Thers nothing wrong with showing interest, i just also show her im not willing to give up anything for it and its meaningless in my life.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Todd_Ingram said:
So I pretty much hate flirting, I feel like it puts a girl on a pedestal that she does not deserve and is overall demeaning towards a man of my caliber. Yeah I'm a bit of a narcissist, not knocking you fellas who do it but ain't my cup of tea. Anyhow if I want some action I know I have to do it a little bit just to reel her in. My assumption is that if I go out of my way to talk to a girl, regardless of the situation she knows I'm on some level interested. I don't need to tell her she's hot or some stupid **** like that (Oye, I use to do that, felt like a *****). So basically I just am taking the strategy to have normal conversation and then have her give me her number at my leisure. Advice? I'd like to take the laid back approach in dating from now on but I could use a few tweeks to my game.
I really love and enjoy flirting, I feel like I can dominate a whole conversation while having a lot of fun. Its not about putting her on a peddestal. Actually, to me is trying to knock her off to put me on it. To me flirting if trying to have fun with the girl, talk, joke and tease her, have her smile and laugh, touch or grab her, and recieving one of those girly hits in the arm (Its 1UP). My assuption is that most guys dont enjoy flirting and go all systematic. So basically Ill just continue to do that and try to get better and better at it. And yes!, it has all to be done in a laid back, chilled, non needy or desperate kind of way.
 

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If you are a strong, confident and possibly also somehow attractive man, I believe it's hard to give a girl too much attention. Show her that you want, but don't need her is maybe the most straightforward advice.
 
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