"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Showing Interest?

B0SS MAN

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So my most recent attempt with this girl went downhill since she tells me she has a boyfriend now. I was pretty sure she was interested because we would flirt all the time and talk about sex and kissing and stuff and I even tried to get her to chill with me but she says i never made a move on her. I felt like I clearly showed my interest but maybe this has been my problem all along. How do you make sure for a fact that she knows that you're interested?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheJazz

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How do you make sure she knows you're interested? Aye aye aye. Be direct, man. Fluff talk, flirting, all this crap is for women. They're passive and indirect. We're men. We skip the crap & cut to the chase. Tell her. Or ask her out on a date. Or just kino her and keep escalating till you get to the kiss. In any of these circumstances, if she objects, you'll know she knows you're interested & doesn't want you. Next!
 

Radharc

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Flirting and talking about sex is fine, but in the end you still have to make a move, to escalate.

Despite all the feminist bullcrap 99,9% of the women still expect the man to be the one who makes the move and escalate.

Not doing it when you have done the flirting and sex talking is just buying an executive class ticket to the friend zone.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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PapiChulo

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Canada, eh?
Women can smell interest from afar as well. All she wants to say that some fella has gotten to her earlier than you did. And boyfriend, please? How long does it take to make someone a boyfriend - months? years? -meaning that you had to pull the trigger long time ago.

You have to butter them up before you make a move. After that it's all about timing. If you coming from out of the blue, she is likely to reject you anyway, yet you cant wait too long.

if you are "sexual" you wont get friend-zoned- she will be likely to cut you off or let you know that it's unneeded.
 
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