"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Showing interest

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krazyboy99 said:
CNF CAN AND WILL GET YOU FRIENDZONED if you don't show any interest! it has happened to me countless times.
What would be some good ways to explicitely show your interest?
Whilst not giving yourself away too much and not coming on too strong.

There are some threads about it, but please share your thoughts nonetheless.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm thinking of eventually using "you seem nice" in future cold approaches just before asking for dates, is that something part of the right line between neediness and interest?
 

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HandyAndy said:
Kino, eye contact
to be true andy, im sick of this advices. they are just not to the point and clear enough. many of u will see that any two confident persons even if they are of same sex and enjoy being with each other or a bro and a sis uses non-threatening kino and comfortable eye contact with each other. so, are we talking about just casual interest here or we are supposed to show sexual or romantic interest which is normally called flirting?

if it is flirting, its more of a little long eye locking, sly smile and threatening kinos. guys, just saying kino or eye contact isnt going to work if u want to take it to the next level. should we use flirting right from beginning? or flirting openers or just start a chat and quickly change into the flirting vibe?

i want some real detailed answers here...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My point exactly schttrj :)

Sexual/romantic interest of course. Spill the beans!
 

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Well, i know of kino and EC as showing genuine interest, im not too sure about sexual interest, maybe someone with experience can help you out some more
 

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Too much CnF is too much pushing and not enough pulling.
 

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HandyAndy said:
Well, i know of kino and EC as showing genuine interest, im not too sure about sexual interest, maybe someone with experience can help you out some more
appreciate ur honesty, man!

and i also know u have at least moderate experience, so tell me one thing should you ever start flirting instantly or too soon with a girl or just wait for her to actually first vibe with u and then go for it when u think enough trust and comfort is built?

huffman, the question to u, too!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well, somewhere in between :)
Basically the question boils down to between showing too much interest (too soon) and showing not enough interest (waiting too long).

My thoughts: the vibe is crucial to your success, but don't wait too long.
 

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According to various sources such as the DJ Bible and David D. The best way to show a girl you are interested is to tell a girl to give you her number or email. You have to be completely natural and say something like, "Hey, what's your number?" Do it when you are in a good conversation or ending one.

Doing it that way shows her that you are interested without you being a chump and actually telling her that you are interested in her.

What do you mean by "not giving yourself away too much?"
 
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