Show me the real you!

[Von]

So yesterday, I was with this girl.... we have a professionnal/casual relationships.

Nothing sexually involve but we did make a joke of mixing professionnal/pleasure.

She's act like a psychologist for me.

She popped this question: Von, show me the real... every time I am with you, I never feel I have the ''real'' you!

Now, it was the first time in years... I had that question... I had it a couple of time during my teens years.. and I got it from my ex (especially when things were going south)

''The Real You''.....
Why would she say that ?
Why would a couple of different people say that?
Ever were in my situation?

What do you think it means? What I am doing to give that vibe?
What's a ''real you'' anyway

 

[resilient]

Appearances wear thin. Many people will wear a social mask when they aren't feeling completely comfortable with people or a person or congruent with their own self-identity.

Sooner or later that social mask has to fall off and reveal the true Von.

That can be the frightning thing about relationships/friendships platonic, professional or lovers, you know someone long enough, they will see the real you whether not your self-actualized to becoming the better DJ you want do be or not.

You are the sum of your life experiences and not the life experiences that haven't happened yet.

 

[AlphaNate]

I disagree with the guys above me. It means she's intrigued about what she doesn't know about you.

Keep doing what you're doing.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Talk to her about puppies or kittens, then perform a trump style pusssy grab.

 

[JohnChops]

I disagree with the guys above me. It means she's intrigued about what she doesn't know about you.

Keep doing what you're doing.

Agreed. I've had girls says "why are you so secretive, can you be more open, why are you so sarcastic" however what she says is irrelevant. If she's still hanging out with you , ****ing you and showing interest, don't change what you're doing.

Clearly a **** test to see if you're a real man or someone who is hiding afc tendencies.

 

[Von]

Yeah, I was always a mysterious person.

I think its more than seduction, more psychological... but I think she's a attracted although its a professionnal relationship.

It's just I was always commitment phobic, never satisfied, never liked to be touched etc.. I've often pushed people away who were attracted.

WIth age and time, I've gotten better, i've known myself, got laid, got a relationship. However, always felt there was 2 side of me... the smiling one that people see and the more ''serious one / narcissic '' in the back. It would feel good to feel something about someone.

Althought, being alone is great and peaceful

These days, life been pretty stressfull:
1) Work is well but so much changes and we living a complete revolution.... we only have a plan and no guarantee of a futur
2) Personal life been shaky, had some depression moment (its so hard to have nothing to do)
3) Health: Got a couple of back to back disease and infection lol (one which I have now, during breaks)
4) Studies are eating me alive

The positive side:
1) I am doing what I want
2) 2 girls have approached me in the past month (and they opened about having a date... took 3 weeks to book it due to schedule... but we will see)
3) Summer coming

 

[wifehunter]

....what? that I'm really an alien from another planet, sent for psychoanalysis of earthling females?

 

[El Payaso]

She is saying you are not acting vulnerable with her. That you are protecting your ego due to some insecurity. Confident people don't have anything to hide.

What a load of crap.

 

[El Payaso]

I disagree with the guys above me. It means she's intrigued about what she doesn't know about you.

Keep doing what you're doing.

What AlphaNate said is correct.

 

[marmel75]

Obviously, she is having problems trying to figure you out, not a bad thing. It means she has to keep thinking about you. That always works in your favor.