"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Should you spin plates within your 'circle'?

Tomo

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I've currently started dating one - hooked up etc etc. At the same time, I'm leading on another, kiss closed another the other night all the while flirting with a few more. Problem is they're all in my year in my degree I'm studying.

Do you guys think it is best I pull back and date elsewhere? My worry is if word gets out and how that'd affect me down the track especially as my profession is a very 'someone who knows someone gets a job' occupation.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Groverz

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Id say if it worry's you that much, and you seem to know the situation better than us, I would try to avoid it. Also never know when you end up spinning 2 that happen to be friends, then **** can blow up.
 

Bacious

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Tomo said:
I've currently started dating one - hooked up etc etc. At the same time, I'm leading on another, kiss closed another the other night all the while flirting with a few more. Problem is they're all in my year in my degree I'm studying.
So you're going to have to deal with the potential consequences of this for years to come? It really doesn't sound like a good long term thing to be doing but you know more about the situation than we do.

You have to realise that "word getting out" consists of two girls that already know each other having a little chat. It sounds like you know that you're skating on thin ice - all I can suggest is that you consider the likely outcomes of you keeping up the Hugh Hefner act within the same circle.
 

Krueg

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Women are not men. They don't think like we do. Women only want a guy when other girls want him. They want a guy who is in demand.
They are not jealous of other girls.
 

Mr Wright

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It's all fun and games until one of them gets feelings for you then she'll smear your name around campus.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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