"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Should you spin plates within your 'circle'?

Tomo

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I've currently started dating one - hooked up etc etc. At the same time, I'm leading on another, kiss closed another the other night all the while flirting with a few more. Problem is they're all in my year in my degree I'm studying.

Do you guys think it is best I pull back and date elsewhere? My worry is if word gets out and how that'd affect me down the track especially as my profession is a very 'someone who knows someone gets a job' occupation.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Groverz

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Id say if it worry's you that much, and you seem to know the situation better than us, I would try to avoid it. Also never know when you end up spinning 2 that happen to be friends, then **** can blow up.
 

Bacious

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Tomo said:
I've currently started dating one - hooked up etc etc. At the same time, I'm leading on another, kiss closed another the other night all the while flirting with a few more. Problem is they're all in my year in my degree I'm studying.
So you're going to have to deal with the potential consequences of this for years to come? It really doesn't sound like a good long term thing to be doing but you know more about the situation than we do.

You have to realise that "word getting out" consists of two girls that already know each other having a little chat. It sounds like you know that you're skating on thin ice - all I can suggest is that you consider the likely outcomes of you keeping up the Hugh Hefner act within the same circle.
 

Krueg

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Women are not men. They don't think like we do. Women only want a guy when other girls want him. They want a guy who is in demand.
They are not jealous of other girls.
 

Mr Wright

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It's all fun and games until one of them gets feelings for you then she'll smear your name around campus.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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