"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Should you LJBF the girl?

Huffman

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Yeah so here I am ;)
I got this girl whom I work with who clearly wants me, but I don't want her since she's... let's just say she's not that attractive to me.

I kind of like her personality and we're a pretty good team at work.

I've already given all those "not-interested"-cues, but she won't give up and I feel bad for her. I wonder if I should tell her fair and square? Though I didn't want to hurt her.
What's your stance on this? Do you LJBF unattractive girls?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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IPalindromeI

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I generally don't do that LJBF because too many people 'accept' it, but continue to bother you because they are seeing the 'friend' part as an excuse to be close to you. They don't magically go from infatuation to 'friends'. Never LJBF to someone you really don't want to be friends with or spend any sort of time with. All you will be doing is feeding their infatuation and digging a deeper hole.

If you want, make it a work thing - stress the importance of working as a team and how workplace relationships really throw a wrench in the works. You can also add that you are glad that you and she can work so well together without having to worry about that kind of thing. That will subtly tell her that while you value her as a co-working you are not interested otherwise. You may also want to mention a girlfriend or potential girlfriend whether you have one or not. That might help seal things off a little better.
 

Max Power

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Tell her you have a boyfriend. That gets most AFCs to stop in their tracks.
 
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