"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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Should you LJBF the girl?

Huffman

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Yeah so here I am ;)
I got this girl whom I work with who clearly wants me, but I don't want her since she's... let's just say she's not that attractive to me.

I kind of like her personality and we're a pretty good team at work.

I've already given all those "not-interested"-cues, but she won't give up and I feel bad for her. I wonder if I should tell her fair and square? Though I didn't want to hurt her.
What's your stance on this? Do you LJBF unattractive girls?
 

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IPalindromeI

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I generally don't do that LJBF because too many people 'accept' it, but continue to bother you because they are seeing the 'friend' part as an excuse to be close to you. They don't magically go from infatuation to 'friends'. Never LJBF to someone you really don't want to be friends with or spend any sort of time with. All you will be doing is feeding their infatuation and digging a deeper hole.

If you want, make it a work thing - stress the importance of working as a team and how workplace relationships really throw a wrench in the works. You can also add that you are glad that you and she can work so well together without having to worry about that kind of thing. That will subtly tell her that while you value her as a co-working you are not interested otherwise. You may also want to mention a girlfriend or potential girlfriend whether you have one or not. That might help seal things off a little better.
 

Max Power

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Tell her you have a boyfriend. That gets most AFCs to stop in their tracks.
 
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