There are several girls I know with whom I have had good interactions so far.
Some of these women though, I see talking to a least a couple other guys. I'll see them touching her (casually), see her touching them, etc - general kinoing and good vibes. I'll see these girls be surrounded by 2-3 guys even, getting a ton of attention. I've even seen these women texting other guys. And that's fine.
But for me at least, I don't like competing for a girl. It seems to me that I'll just become another sheep in the herd, another orbiter, I'll have to 'prove/sell myself' rather than 'buy the relationship'.
Is this a bad mentality to have? I also know that attractive women will always have men around them, giving them attention, vying for her affection, etc., so I recognize that it may be unrealistic to think a girl will only be talking to me in the social sphere. I also realize that it's a bit of a double standard that I'm practicing, as I believe in talking to multiple women at a time to build an abundance mentality. <_<
But perhaps women spin plates as well?
But when I see this happening, not only do I back off during that particular interaction (when there are multiple guys talking to her at once), but I also kind of just put her on the backburner, and want to just stop initiating stuff, give up on asking her out, etc. I just get this feeling of, "I don't want to have to deal with this."
Perhaps this stems from the fact that the first girl I had been close to was, for some reason or another, highly interested in me. I never heard or saw her interacting closely with other guys or anything, so I guess I'm a bit 'sheltered' in that respect. Dealing with women who are mediumly~ interested is a whole different ballgame, and I feel like it's bringing out some insecurities within me.
Any advice regarding the mindset I should have, or thoughts on 'competing' for women in general?
Some of these women though, I see talking to a least a couple other guys. I'll see them touching her (casually), see her touching them, etc - general kinoing and good vibes. I'll see these girls be surrounded by 2-3 guys even, getting a ton of attention. I've even seen these women texting other guys. And that's fine.
But for me at least, I don't like competing for a girl. It seems to me that I'll just become another sheep in the herd, another orbiter, I'll have to 'prove/sell myself' rather than 'buy the relationship'.
Is this a bad mentality to have? I also know that attractive women will always have men around them, giving them attention, vying for her affection, etc., so I recognize that it may be unrealistic to think a girl will only be talking to me in the social sphere. I also realize that it's a bit of a double standard that I'm practicing, as I believe in talking to multiple women at a time to build an abundance mentality. <_<
But perhaps women spin plates as well?
But when I see this happening, not only do I back off during that particular interaction (when there are multiple guys talking to her at once), but I also kind of just put her on the backburner, and want to just stop initiating stuff, give up on asking her out, etc. I just get this feeling of, "I don't want to have to deal with this."
Perhaps this stems from the fact that the first girl I had been close to was, for some reason or another, highly interested in me. I never heard or saw her interacting closely with other guys or anything, so I guess I'm a bit 'sheltered' in that respect. Dealing with women who are mediumly~ interested is a whole different ballgame, and I feel like it's bringing out some insecurities within me.
Any advice regarding the mindset I should have, or thoughts on 'competing' for women in general?