"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Should Sexual advance be mutual.... and more!

SoSuaveDude

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Hello Sosuave, im a 3 month lurker and decided to pose a somewhat desperate question to the community. Let me start off by saying this is definitely (hopefully lol) not a case of one-itis

Ok now, im a bit confused on how to correctly advance with physical sexual tension, like this HB7 for example:

she'll hug me, then ask for a second consecutive hug if she felt the first one was not satisfying enough. This girl also shows great genuine interest and I could limit myself to an exclusive relationship if i so pleased.

My only concern is that i'm always doing kino but she never seems to return much PHYSICAL flirtation if any at all. I mean this girl pulls some sweet lines and sometimes stares into my eyes for a seemingly endless amount of time. I remember a time when she went around asking some of my friends if i ever mention her. The physical attraction must be there, but why wont she initiate more sexual advances.

Am I as a man supposed to always initiate sexual advancement even if its not returned, and assume that she is sexually attracted to me? This is puzzling because some of the past girls initiated more kino than me lol :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SoSuaveDude

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Also this is my mentality because i constantly hear that the girl should chase you, and ultimately return more attraction than the male.
 

pipe007

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have you tried kissing her already? or gone out with her on a "date"?

your mistake is waiting for her to show clear signs of interest of physical interest, you should be always trying to escalate to advance physically (kissing) and have her resist if that was the case (worst case), and then try again...

but its your job as a man to take things to the next level, and go for it, she will let you know by backing away if she is not attracted.

grab your manhood and go for it.
 

Gangster Of Love

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How long have you known this one?
All sigs point towards LJBF territory, from her end, at least.
 

SoSuaveDude

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@pipe I agree that I guess i need to step it up more and test my boundaries on her
@GOL I have known her for about a month, and why do you think it's let's just be friends?

Any more advice?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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blueline

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You need to physically escalate and go for the makeout. I've done them out of nowhere on dates with very little previous kino (maybe an arm around the shoulder or waist) and had things go really well. However, I do recommend incremental kino. Jumping the physical barrier to that first makeout is rarely pretty and smooth like in the movies, man.

Also, do it waaay faster than in one month. Get that girl on a date and do it within 45min-2 hours on the first date.
 
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