"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Should Sexual advance be mutual.... and more!

SoSuaveDude

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Hello Sosuave, im a 3 month lurker and decided to pose a somewhat desperate question to the community. Let me start off by saying this is definitely (hopefully lol) not a case of one-itis

Ok now, im a bit confused on how to correctly advance with physical sexual tension, like this HB7 for example:

she'll hug me, then ask for a second consecutive hug if she felt the first one was not satisfying enough. This girl also shows great genuine interest and I could limit myself to an exclusive relationship if i so pleased.

My only concern is that i'm always doing kino but she never seems to return much PHYSICAL flirtation if any at all. I mean this girl pulls some sweet lines and sometimes stares into my eyes for a seemingly endless amount of time. I remember a time when she went around asking some of my friends if i ever mention her. The physical attraction must be there, but why wont she initiate more sexual advances.

Am I as a man supposed to always initiate sexual advancement even if its not returned, and assume that she is sexually attracted to me? This is puzzling because some of the past girls initiated more kino than me lol :)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SoSuaveDude

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Also this is my mentality because i constantly hear that the girl should chase you, and ultimately return more attraction than the male.
 

pipe007

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have you tried kissing her already? or gone out with her on a "date"?

your mistake is waiting for her to show clear signs of interest of physical interest, you should be always trying to escalate to advance physically (kissing) and have her resist if that was the case (worst case), and then try again...

but its your job as a man to take things to the next level, and go for it, she will let you know by backing away if she is not attracted.

grab your manhood and go for it.
 

Gangster Of Love

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How long have you known this one?
All sigs point towards LJBF territory, from her end, at least.
 

SoSuaveDude

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@pipe I agree that I guess i need to step it up more and test my boundaries on her
@GOL I have known her for about a month, and why do you think it's let's just be friends?

Any more advice?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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blueline

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You need to physically escalate and go for the makeout. I've done them out of nowhere on dates with very little previous kino (maybe an arm around the shoulder or waist) and had things go really well. However, I do recommend incremental kino. Jumping the physical barrier to that first makeout is rarely pretty and smooth like in the movies, man.

Also, do it waaay faster than in one month. Get that girl on a date and do it within 45min-2 hours on the first date.
 
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