Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Should Sexual advance be mutual.... and more!

SoSuaveDude

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Hello Sosuave, im a 3 month lurker and decided to pose a somewhat desperate question to the community. Let me start off by saying this is definitely (hopefully lol) not a case of one-itis

Ok now, im a bit confused on how to correctly advance with physical sexual tension, like this HB7 for example:

she'll hug me, then ask for a second consecutive hug if she felt the first one was not satisfying enough. This girl also shows great genuine interest and I could limit myself to an exclusive relationship if i so pleased.

My only concern is that i'm always doing kino but she never seems to return much PHYSICAL flirtation if any at all. I mean this girl pulls some sweet lines and sometimes stares into my eyes for a seemingly endless amount of time. I remember a time when she went around asking some of my friends if i ever mention her. The physical attraction must be there, but why wont she initiate more sexual advances.

Am I as a man supposed to always initiate sexual advancement even if its not returned, and assume that she is sexually attracted to me? This is puzzling because some of the past girls initiated more kino than me lol :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SoSuaveDude

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Also this is my mentality because i constantly hear that the girl should chase you, and ultimately return more attraction than the male.
 

pipe007

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have you tried kissing her already? or gone out with her on a "date"?

your mistake is waiting for her to show clear signs of interest of physical interest, you should be always trying to escalate to advance physically (kissing) and have her resist if that was the case (worst case), and then try again...

but its your job as a man to take things to the next level, and go for it, she will let you know by backing away if she is not attracted.

grab your manhood and go for it.
 

Gangster Of Love

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How long have you known this one?
All sigs point towards LJBF territory, from her end, at least.
 

SoSuaveDude

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@pipe I agree that I guess i need to step it up more and test my boundaries on her
@GOL I have known her for about a month, and why do you think it's let's just be friends?

Any more advice?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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blueline

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You need to physically escalate and go for the makeout. I've done them out of nowhere on dates with very little previous kino (maybe an arm around the shoulder or waist) and had things go really well. However, I do recommend incremental kino. Jumping the physical barrier to that first makeout is rarely pretty and smooth like in the movies, man.

Also, do it waaay faster than in one month. Get that girl on a date and do it within 45min-2 hours on the first date.
 
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