Should I validate my gf this early in the relationship

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I really don't like validating women until she has real skin in the game. However, my family is coming to town and visit and they have been bugging to see her. Should I make up some bs that she can't make it or invite her and let them know that I'm not rotting alone in a big city

TBH, I think of the worst things you can do is give too much validation to a girl because she will take advantage of you if you do lol.

 

[RickTheToad]

How long have you two officially been in a "relationship"

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

How long have you two officially been in a "relationship"

a month, I'm leaning towards a no lmao

 

[RickTheToad]

a month, I'm leaning towards a no lmao

Oh, ok.

Nope. You barely know each other, and that's moving way too fast. Start with friends, if you wish..

 

[GreatHornedOwl]

I really don't like validating women until she has real skin in the game. However, my family is coming to town and visit and they have been bugging to see her. Should I make up some bs that she can't make it or invite her and let them know that I'm not rotting alone in a big city

TBH, I think of the worst things you can do is give too much validation to a girl because she will take advantage of you if you do lol.

Why are you concerned what your family thinks? Shouldn't you be more concerned with what you think? Why would you make up an excuse? Is this what you want to do, or is this what you perceive someone else wants you to do to portray a certain image that you're trying to project? And plus you're worried about validating someone else on top of it? What do YOU think? What are YOUR thoughts? Stop trying to decipher what everyone else's thoughts/opinions/judgements are.

 

[Velasco]

bs reason she can't make it. Take a pic with u and ur gf in it to show them if they want proof she's legit ur girl and not some random pic you claim is ur gf.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

Yep, not going to validate her. I want to impress my family, buttt I don't want deal with the bs either lol.

 

[spikeanut]

A month?...no. It's not even about validating her; it's the fact that you're even thinking about introducing any type of month-long plate to your family. That's a tell-tale sign that you are way too invested in this month long plate. Additionally, the mere fact your family actually knows of a girl you've been seeing for merely a month should be a red flag for you to pump the brakes just a bit. Be cautious because it appears you are falling for this one way too quickly; and that is the prime way to chase her off.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

A month?...no. It's not even about validating her; it's the fact that you're even thinking about introducing any type of month-long plate to your family. That's a tell-tale sign that you are way too invested in this month long plate. Additionally, the mere fact your family actually knows of a girl you've been seeing for merely a month should be a red flag for you to pump the brakes just a bit. Be cautious because it appears you are falling for this one way too quickly; and that is the prime way to chase her off.

Chill dude lol, you’re taking like 1% of a situation and jumping to conclusions lol

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I don't think this would be considered validating, it would be you basically making things way more serious than they should be after a month which would be to the long term detriment of you.

Wild stallions shouldn't cage themself.

 

[EyeBRollin]

How long have you been going on dates?

It’s total dating time that matters, not time exclusively dating.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

I don't think this would be considered validating, it would be you basically making things way more serious than they should be after a month which would be to the long term detriment of you.

Wild stallions shouldn't cage themself.

I'm scared to do this regardless but I do want to show off a hot blonde girl to my family so 75% of it is arrogance tbh lol

How long have you been going on dates?

It’s total dating time that matters, not time exclusively dating.

3 months, she begin cracking her woman shield around 2 weeks ago, I still got some work to do though

 

[EyeBRollin]

3 months, she begin cracking her woman shield around 2 weeks ago, I still got some work to do though

It’s still a bit early for parents. 4-6 months is more appropriate.

 

[Lookatu]

a month, I'm leaning towards a no lmao

You have a "GF"? I would've never guessed based on your posts here.

BTW she ain't your GF no matter what you two think after a month. You're merely just in a oneitis situation with her.