ok so i went out to a bar with my cousin. he met up with a girl. her sister was there. by the end of the night she shows she's really into me. we go back to my place. i take her to my room we make out and stuff. didn't have sex. she was really into me just didn't want to take it there. i took her home she gave me her number. we txt back and forth the next day and the day after. i sent a picture. i really good one. then i txted her on day 3 to make plans. its been two days with no response. what should i do?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
should i txt her again...?
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Mike32ct
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What kind of picture did you send? I hope it wasn't of Mr. Happy lol.
Regardless, just back off to see if she contacts you. If she does contact you, don't mention the date. See if she brings it up.
Regardless, just back off to see if she contacts you. If she does contact you, don't mention the date. See if she brings it up.
no lol. it was of my upper body and face. im in good shape (former military). just wondering if i should worry. i was gonna try recontacting her after the holidays. or send a nonchalant happy new years txt and see if she responds.
women haze
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Listen...DO NOT TEXT HER AT ALL
She got the messages, if she really cared she would send you something saying Happy Holidays.
It sounds like she is into you, but her interest is boarderline...
Remember you aren't the only one she is talking to
She got the messages, if she really cared she would send you something saying Happy Holidays.
It sounds like she is into you, but her interest is boarderline...
Remember you aren't the only one she is talking to
Pimp-sicle
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Strong attraction on the night you two met; but almost zero comfort/rapport building. She's got buyer's remorse now; because now every time you contact her, she thinks you just want to hit it.
PIMP
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Put her on the back burner
PrettyBoyAJ
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Don't get into the texting trap. She was already interested so you didn't need to text her for three straight days. Simply call her and schedule a meetup. That simple.
By the end of the night. Perhaps a little tipsiness was involved? It's always tricky when you throw alcohol into the mix. Could be she was just looking for a good time, and got it. And now she feels awkward. She doesnt want to make herself seem too easy because she already made out with you the same day she met you. I wouldn't phase it too much. The good thing is you just met so feelings should not be invested. If all you got out of this was a makeout session, hey. It is what it is. You've texted her several times. You've done your job. Ball is in her court now. Let her do the rest