ok so i went out to a bar with my cousin. he met up with a girl. her sister was there. by the end of the night she shows she's really into me. we go back to my place. i take her to my room we make out and stuff. didn't have sex. she was really into me just didn't want to take it there. i took her home she gave me her number. we txt back and forth the next day and the day after. i sent a picture. i really good one. then i txted her on day 3 to make plans. its been two days with no response. what should i do?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
should i txt her again...?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Mike32ct
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What kind of picture did you send? I hope it wasn't of Mr. Happy lol.
Regardless, just back off to see if she contacts you. If she does contact you, don't mention the date. See if she brings it up.
Regardless, just back off to see if she contacts you. If she does contact you, don't mention the date. See if she brings it up.
no lol. it was of my upper body and face. im in good shape (former military). just wondering if i should worry. i was gonna try recontacting her after the holidays. or send a nonchalant happy new years txt and see if she responds.
women haze
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Listen...DO NOT TEXT HER AT ALL
She got the messages, if she really cared she would send you something saying Happy Holidays.
It sounds like she is into you, but her interest is boarderline...
Remember you aren't the only one she is talking to
She got the messages, if she really cared she would send you something saying Happy Holidays.
It sounds like she is into you, but her interest is boarderline...
Remember you aren't the only one she is talking to
Pimp-sicle
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Strong attraction on the night you two met; but almost zero comfort/rapport building. She's got buyer's remorse now; because now every time you contact her, she thinks you just want to hit it.
PIMP
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Put her on the back burner
PrettyBoyAJ
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Don't get into the texting trap. She was already interested so you didn't need to text her for three straight days. Simply call her and schedule a meetup. That simple.
By the end of the night. Perhaps a little tipsiness was involved? It's always tricky when you throw alcohol into the mix. Could be she was just looking for a good time, and got it. And now she feels awkward. She doesnt want to make herself seem too easy because she already made out with you the same day she met you. I wouldn't phase it too much. The good thing is you just met so feelings should not be invested. If all you got out of this was a makeout session, hey. It is what it is. You've texted her several times. You've done your job. Ball is in her court now. Let her do the rest