"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Should I try this Facebook "approach"?

Infamous J

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Long story short, I came across the profile of a chick I had a big thing for in high school (about 5 years ago). I haven't talked to her since, but am thinking about approaching her via internet simply because it's my only option.

Basically what I was going to do was message her saying something like

"Hey aren't you the girl I had a crush on in high school?" then based on her response follow it up with something along the lines of "You should give me your number so we can go out sometime".

I know digital approaches aren't ideal, but I haven't seen her around town at all and have no connection to her through any other people. So basically it's either this or leave it alone--I figure I've got nothing to lose.

What do the fellas think?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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SinJester

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"Hey aren't you the girl I had a crush on in high school?"
I don't reccomend this as the opener. Might seem like you are gaming her. Did she know you had a crush on her?
 

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SinJester said:
I don't reccomend this as the opener. Might seem like you are gaming her. Did she know you had a crush on her?
Nah she didn't. I'm not quite sure what I would open with since I didn't know her all that well. What do you think is a good opener?
 

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Just add her to your friend list an in the message say Hi, if her page is open make a comment about her Movie interest or favorite sport team, it's a bit like seeing a girl in a bar, make mention you went to school together
 

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'Heyy, I remember you from school. It's always nice to see old faces, we should catchtup sometime!"

Maybe from there use some information on her page to extend it a bit more. "Oh it seems like we have the same taste in music :D" Or something. You get the idea.

Just don't mention the crush thing straight away. Might offer a good oppurtunity to neg her later though. Think about it.

As long as you make it seem like your fun and you aren't trying to get anything from her I don't see why she would act negitively towards you.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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The Deacon

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If I want to meet up with someone on facebook, I just banter with them, add them as a friend, message them back and forth, and then say "hey, I'm goin ice skating with some friends friday night over at blah blah, it would be cool if you came." It usually works, and when you get her out, then you can work some game on her. Just don't come on too strong when you're online of all places. It's creepy.
 

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IMO don't say anything about having a crush on her earlier. I did that once and it didn't work out so well when I was younger. Also I have hooked up with girls through facebook, but only after they wrote on my wall or messaged me. Just add her as a friend and make some small talk for a while, and try to progress to getting her number or hanging out.
 

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Infamous J said:
Long story short, I came across the profile of a chick I had a big thing for in high school (about 5 years ago). I haven't talked to her since, but am thinking about approaching her via internet simply because it's my only option.

Basically what I was going to do was message her saying something like

"Hey aren't you the girl I had a crush on in high school?" then based on her response follow it up with something along the lines of "You should give me your number so we can go out sometime".

I know digital approaches aren't ideal, but I haven't seen her around town at all and have no connection to her through any other people. So basically it's either this or leave it alone--I figure I've got nothing to lose.

What do the fellas think?
sounds cowardly. never ask a number via internet
 
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