"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Should I try this Facebook "approach"?

Infamous J

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Long story short, I came across the profile of a chick I had a big thing for in high school (about 5 years ago). I haven't talked to her since, but am thinking about approaching her via internet simply because it's my only option.

Basically what I was going to do was message her saying something like

"Hey aren't you the girl I had a crush on in high school?" then based on her response follow it up with something along the lines of "You should give me your number so we can go out sometime".

I know digital approaches aren't ideal, but I haven't seen her around town at all and have no connection to her through any other people. So basically it's either this or leave it alone--I figure I've got nothing to lose.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SinJester

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"Hey aren't you the girl I had a crush on in high school?"
I don't reccomend this as the opener. Might seem like you are gaming her. Did she know you had a crush on her?
 

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SinJester said:
I don't reccomend this as the opener. Might seem like you are gaming her. Did she know you had a crush on her?
Nah she didn't. I'm not quite sure what I would open with since I didn't know her all that well. What do you think is a good opener?
 

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Just add her to your friend list an in the message say Hi, if her page is open make a comment about her Movie interest or favorite sport team, it's a bit like seeing a girl in a bar, make mention you went to school together
 

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'Heyy, I remember you from school. It's always nice to see old faces, we should catchtup sometime!"

Maybe from there use some information on her page to extend it a bit more. "Oh it seems like we have the same taste in music :D" Or something. You get the idea.

Just don't mention the crush thing straight away. Might offer a good oppurtunity to neg her later though. Think about it.

As long as you make it seem like your fun and you aren't trying to get anything from her I don't see why she would act negitively towards you.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The Deacon

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If I want to meet up with someone on facebook, I just banter with them, add them as a friend, message them back and forth, and then say "hey, I'm goin ice skating with some friends friday night over at blah blah, it would be cool if you came." It usually works, and when you get her out, then you can work some game on her. Just don't come on too strong when you're online of all places. It's creepy.
 

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IMO don't say anything about having a crush on her earlier. I did that once and it didn't work out so well when I was younger. Also I have hooked up with girls through facebook, but only after they wrote on my wall or messaged me. Just add her as a friend and make some small talk for a while, and try to progress to getting her number or hanging out.
 

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Infamous J said:
Long story short, I came across the profile of a chick I had a big thing for in high school (about 5 years ago). I haven't talked to her since, but am thinking about approaching her via internet simply because it's my only option.

Basically what I was going to do was message her saying something like

"Hey aren't you the girl I had a crush on in high school?" then based on her response follow it up with something along the lines of "You should give me your number so we can go out sometime".

I know digital approaches aren't ideal, but I haven't seen her around town at all and have no connection to her through any other people. So basically it's either this or leave it alone--I figure I've got nothing to lose.

What do the fellas think?
sounds cowardly. never ask a number via internet
 
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