"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Should I try an email approach?

Dirtheart

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Ok there’s this woman I’ve been interested in for a long time. She’s beautiful, intelligent, classy, but also very modest. The signals I get from her, however, are erratic. She often makes a point of smiling and saying hello in passing (or sometimes even from afar), but when I’ve tried talking to her she seems to close up (this is actually very rare for me btw) – which I can’t discern between total lack of interest or shyness.

I don’t know her particularly well, but we had a class together last year and have a number of mutal acquaintances (all of whom think very highly of me). Anyway, I probably won’t see her again now until next term, so I’ve been thinking of writing her an email asking her for a drink or coffee after the exams. It’s not the approach I’d normally choose and was hoping some of you guys could give me some ideas on how to go about it, or whether you think it’s just a plain bad idea.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Tango-Kid

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Why don´t you ask her face to face or give her a call? I think they are better ways.
 

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I would, but I don't have her number and I won't see her again until November. I wanted to ask her out face to face before now, but she is always with friends, so it has been difficult.
 

Tango-Kid

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I feel e-mail is not a good way to approach.. but then again, anything can happen. If it´s the only way to approach that girl, maybe you should give it a try - and remember the next time -CARPE DIEM. Let us know what happened :)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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