"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Should I tolerate this chick?

B-Real

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Ok, first I'll give you a little background on this girl. I met her about 2 months ago in my hometown. I was visiting my parents for a week.

We were at a party and someone told her where I go to college and I be dang if she don't go to the same college. So right at first we had things to talk about, and a few things in common.

I told her (once I got her number) that I would call her one day and we can go do something. Fast forward a couple of weeks.

I call her and she doesn't answer so I leave a message. She never called back. Well the next 2 weeks I was so busy that I didn't have anytime for myself so I never called her back.

So just a week ago, she texted me and asked me if I was in town (our college town) and I told her yea. So she ended up coming back to my apt and we watched t.v. and talked about things. By the way.. I was slightly intoxicated, but she wasn't exactly "sober" so the conversation we had wasn't the clearest.

So over the past few days, she has been texting me wondering what I'm doing on that certain night. Ok, the past two times I've invited her to come over she has said "yes I will come over."

But she never does. I try and call her or text her and she doesn't answer. So about that time I'm about to go to bed and she uses some excuse like she had no service, or something bogus like that

I personally don't beleive her and my question to you is: Should I keep trying to contact her? I mean I am usually not the one who calls her first, she always calls me, and then of course nothing happens. I respond to her message then its like she falls off the face of the earth.

What do you think? Am I being teased or what?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Obsidian

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Ok, the past two times I've invited her to come over she has said "yes I will come over." But she never does. I try and call her or text her and she doesn't answer.
I was thinking, "Man, things are goin' well" until that part. Forget this b1tch.

Do a forum search for the "Anti-Dump Machine" series by Pook and you will understand. There's no point in low-interest chicks. And moreover, lying to you is just plain disrespect; you shouldn't tolerate that from anyone, male or female.

Good job approaching and getting the #, tho. Keep up the good work. This girl has eliminated herself from the category of quality women. Keep on approaching and keep on filtering out the bad ones.
 

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So the next time she contacts me what should I say? I know she will within the next couple of days. Should I just ignore her?
 

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B-Real said:
So the next time she contacts me what should I say? I know she will within the next couple of days. Should I just ignore her?
Simple: Don't pick-up. You have nothing in common to discuss with her.
 

Obsidian

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So the next time she contacts me what should I say?

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Seriously, read those posts I mentioned. Don't be lazy. They will help you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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