"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Should I tolerate this chick?

B-Real

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Ok, first I'll give you a little background on this girl. I met her about 2 months ago in my hometown. I was visiting my parents for a week.

We were at a party and someone told her where I go to college and I be dang if she don't go to the same college. So right at first we had things to talk about, and a few things in common.

I told her (once I got her number) that I would call her one day and we can go do something. Fast forward a couple of weeks.

I call her and she doesn't answer so I leave a message. She never called back. Well the next 2 weeks I was so busy that I didn't have anytime for myself so I never called her back.

So just a week ago, she texted me and asked me if I was in town (our college town) and I told her yea. So she ended up coming back to my apt and we watched t.v. and talked about things. By the way.. I was slightly intoxicated, but she wasn't exactly "sober" so the conversation we had wasn't the clearest.

So over the past few days, she has been texting me wondering what I'm doing on that certain night. Ok, the past two times I've invited her to come over she has said "yes I will come over."

But she never does. I try and call her or text her and she doesn't answer. So about that time I'm about to go to bed and she uses some excuse like she had no service, or something bogus like that

I personally don't beleive her and my question to you is: Should I keep trying to contact her? I mean I am usually not the one who calls her first, she always calls me, and then of course nothing happens. I respond to her message then its like she falls off the face of the earth.

What do you think? Am I being teased or what?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Obsidian

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Ok, the past two times I've invited her to come over she has said "yes I will come over." But she never does. I try and call her or text her and she doesn't answer.
I was thinking, "Man, things are goin' well" until that part. Forget this b1tch.

Do a forum search for the "Anti-Dump Machine" series by Pook and you will understand. There's no point in low-interest chicks. And moreover, lying to you is just plain disrespect; you shouldn't tolerate that from anyone, male or female.

Good job approaching and getting the #, tho. Keep up the good work. This girl has eliminated herself from the category of quality women. Keep on approaching and keep on filtering out the bad ones.
 

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So the next time she contacts me what should I say? I know she will within the next couple of days. Should I just ignore her?
 

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B-Real said:
So the next time she contacts me what should I say? I know she will within the next couple of days. Should I just ignore her?
Simple: Don't pick-up. You have nothing in common to discuss with her.
 

Obsidian

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So the next time she contacts me what should I say?

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Seriously, read those posts I mentioned. Don't be lazy. They will help you.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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