"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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SHould I text her today? Remaining relevant or coming off needy?

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This girl I hung out with on Wednesday, we texted a bit yesterday but she was getting drunk and I kept her laughing a lot through the texts just being a comedian but I kept it brief cause I had to go work out, she said she was drinking and I said text me back later tonight if you don't get too drunk - she didn't text me

Now it's Friday. Apparently according to PUA lexicon, I should be acting busy and unavailable for Friday's and Saturday's....so should I text her to remain relevant, this girls on the fence between going for guys or girls
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I don't see a need to text her to remain "relevant." When you next text her, it should be to set up a get-together, so you can game her in person.
 

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Dante420 said:
Now it's Friday. Apparently according to PUA lexicon, I should be acting busy and unavailable for Friday's and Saturday's....so should I text her to remain relevant, this girls on the fence between going for guys or girls
Fvck playing silly PUA games, if you want to see her, see her. Just don't do it in a needy way, for example, don't give her streams of sappy texts and don't always be available (it should be because you are actually busy.)
 

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Fvck playing silly PUA games, if you want to see her, see her. Just don't do it in a needy way, for example, don't give her streams of sappy texts and don't always be available (it should be because you are actually busy.)
Ya but my social life sucks....
 

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Dante420 said:
This girl I hung out with on Wednesday, we texted a bit yesterday but she was getting drunk and I kept her laughing a lot through the texts just being a comedian but I kept it brief cause I had to go work out, she said she was drinking and I said text me back later tonight if you don't get too drunk - she didn't text me

Now it's Friday. Apparently according to PUA lexicon, I should be acting busy and unavailable for Friday's and Saturday's....so should I text her to remain relevant, this girls on the fence between going for guys or girls

haha i feel you on this. sometimes i wonder if i should send a text to remain "relevant" as well.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Dante420 said:
....so should I text her to remain relevant, this girls on the fence between going for guys or girls
What? Perhaps you should find some women who are on y0ur side of the fence and actually WANT to hang out with you .

If a woman says that she is going to text you /call you or email you but does not she is sending you a message.

Can you guess what her reticence means ?
 

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She texted me back hours later to which I responded 20 minutes later and we had a short lil conversation......she's going to a concert tomorrow - should I contact if she doesn't?
 

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Dante420 said:
She texted me back hours later to which I responded 20 minutes later and we had a short lil conversation......she's going to a concert tomorrow - should I contact if she doesn't?
She contacted you to make herself "available" to you and to the possibility that you had some outing in mind.
Her text was an opening -a subtle invitation to you to move .
That is how women play their part in the seduction dance- they 'position' themselves in various ways and then (rightly) expect you to press down on the gas.

Did you set something up during that text convo ?
 
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