"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SHould I text her today? Remaining relevant or coming off needy?

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This girl I hung out with on Wednesday, we texted a bit yesterday but she was getting drunk and I kept her laughing a lot through the texts just being a comedian but I kept it brief cause I had to go work out, she said she was drinking and I said text me back later tonight if you don't get too drunk - she didn't text me

Now it's Friday. Apparently according to PUA lexicon, I should be acting busy and unavailable for Friday's and Saturday's....so should I text her to remain relevant, this girls on the fence between going for guys or girls
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I don't see a need to text her to remain "relevant." When you next text her, it should be to set up a get-together, so you can game her in person.
 
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Dante420 said:
Now it's Friday. Apparently according to PUA lexicon, I should be acting busy and unavailable for Friday's and Saturday's....so should I text her to remain relevant, this girls on the fence between going for guys or girls
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Fvck playing silly PUA games, if you want to see her, see her. Just don't do it in a needy way, for example, don't give her streams of sappy texts and don't always be available (it should be because you are actually busy.)
 
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Fvck playing silly PUA games, if you want to see her, see her. Just don't do it in a needy way, for example, don't give her streams of sappy texts and don't always be available (it should be because you are actually busy.)
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Ya but my social life sucks....
 
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Dante420 said:
This girl I hung out with on Wednesday, we texted a bit yesterday but she was getting drunk and I kept her laughing a lot through the texts just being a comedian but I kept it brief cause I had to go work out, she said she was drinking and I said text me back later tonight if you don't get too drunk - she didn't text me

Now it's Friday. Apparently according to PUA lexicon, I should be acting busy and unavailable for Friday's and Saturday's....so should I text her to remain relevant, this girls on the fence between going for guys or girls
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haha i feel you on this. sometimes i wonder if i should send a text to remain "relevant" as well.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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....so should I text her to remain relevant, this girls on the fence between going for guys or girls
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What? Perhaps you should find some women who are on y0ur side of the fence and actually WANT to hang out with you .

If a woman says that she is going to text you /call you or email you but does not she is sending you a message.

Can you guess what her reticence means ?
 
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She texted me back hours later to which I responded 20 minutes later and we had a short lil conversation......she's going to a concert tomorrow - should I contact if she doesn't?
 
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She texted me back hours later to which I responded 20 minutes later and we had a short lil conversation......she's going to a concert tomorrow - should I contact if she doesn't?
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She contacted you to make herself "available" to you and to the possibility that you had some outing in mind.
Her text was an opening -a subtle invitation to you to move .
That is how women play their part in the seduction dance- they 'position' themselves in various ways and then (rightly) expect you to press down on the gas.

Did you set something up during that text convo ?
 
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