Should i text her if she doesn't text me?

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Hello.
I met with a girl in a game and after a while she told me that "she wants to live with me","im like her male version","she wants to sleep with me","hug me" then we did facetime and talked about sexual things. Then she wanted me to come to her country for the new year celebrations which is not too far. And i told her that i will. And until one week ago we were talking like everyday. i was like playing a tennis. for the one day i waited her to text me first then the other day i texted her and we texted each other and started convos like that.
But realized that i was thinking about her all the time bc i don't talk to girls at the same time and i don't go outside meet ppl. Im kinda asocial and i don't have a lot of friends. So when you have only one girl you think about that girl and this situation makes me crazy i can't even sleep. i wake up suddenly and check my phone if she text me. I didn't show my feelings and i think im very good at it.
Anyway.
She admitted that by implying "she were interested and attracted to me" even i had never did that to her.
She doesn't text me since few days so do i. (our last convo was great btw)
So what should i do now? Should i text her or wait her to text me?
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I'm in the same situation, I just ended up ignoring them like they did to me. Just mirror her responses, if she seems to pull away or act colder then let it die off on its own. You can't negotiate interest after all. In fact I think that if you double text her then she might get annoyed and act even more distant.
edit: Oh wait, I just saw that she implied she's interested...what were the signs that she's attracted? I'd assume that if she was truly interested she'd reach out instead of waiting a couple of days. Who was the last person to text?
 

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Send her a meme that is somehow connected to her and say, "Saw this and thought of you."
 

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Who was the last person to text?
i was...
what were the signs that she's attracted?
She wanted to make love with me and told me that she wants to live with me forever.

you met her in a game?
Yeah i play Dead by daylight and i met with her in a random match.
C'mon man...go meet a woman in real life and stop with this stuff.
You are %100 right but i live in a muslim country and i don't have a wingman.
Send her a meme that is somehow connected to her and say, "Saw this and thought of you."
She used to do same things to me so did i. But if she was truly interested with me she would text me.
I woke up after 2 hours of sleep again...
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i was...

She wanted to make love with me and told me that she wants to live with me forever.


Yeah i play Dead by daylight and i met with her in a random match.

You are %100 right but i live in a muslim country and i don't have a wingman.

She used to do same things to me so did i. But if she was truly interested with me she would text me.
I woke up after 2 hours of sleep again...
(srry4badenglish)
Dude you have something called oneitis and she noticed it too


Nothing that you can do to make things better with her, you have to wait for her to come back to you and then you have to go slowly but surely more cold towards her and hopefully she will start chasing you

But again, it kinda looks like this is a dead end because you live in different countries + different cultures

Better to invest all this mental energy in trying to talk with other girls
 

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Dude you have something called oneitis and she noticed it too
No bro i have never showed my feelings to her. Even i became a oneitis (bc she is the only girl im talking to) i know about oneitism and i was really careful about it so i think she didn't noticed my feelings.
I know she is not my soulmate i know she is not "the one" but i can't stop thinking about her. Thats why having multiple girls in your life is the best way for "the game".
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But if you talk a lot to a girl she will just assume that you like her a lot :)
we did face times like 8 hours straight i was usually the one who says "goodbye, im gonna sleep.". i ended convos the most time.
But you made a good point...
 

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we did face times like 8 hours straight i was usually the one who says "goodbye, im gonna sleep.". i ended convos the most time.
But you made a good point...
The more time and attention you give a woman, the more status she thinks to have in your life. That's why you don't give them attention when they ask for it, but when you have the time to give attention to them.
 

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The more time and attention you give a woman, the more status she thinks to have in your life. That's why you don't give them attention when they ask for it, but when you have the time to give attention to them.
Yeah you are right. i will post here if anything happens.
i wont let the same things happen to me. i will focus on my bussines and wont let girls distract me. i couldnt sleep last night again... now im at work with 2 hours of sleep.
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Hey guys there is a big update..
She texted me and we continued our conversation then i tried to go to her country but border police didnt let me in :)
I came back to my country and i was mad about everything. She tried to talk to my but i was acting cold. Then she didnt text me for 2 months so did i.

She texted me after 2 months and asked if i still want to meet her. And told me she is going to visit my country.
I said yeah, sure, and we started to talk again.
But she was stalking me all the time and found out about my twitter account and saw all the porn pages i was following :)
After she found out about them and asked me about them, i just ignored her, didnt answer her messages. Then she tried to insult me with that but i blocked her from every platform. After 2 weeks she texted me again and told me that she was in my country. And said "lets forget about everything and meet."
And we met, we had good memories and also bad memories together in like 6 days...
We had sex also without condom. She didnt want it without a condom but i convinced her anyway.. Then she went back to her country.
We kept talking on phone, texting, etc.
After like 2 weeks she told me that she feels weird and thinks she may be pregnant. She wanted to meet me again soon as possible. To do the pregnancy test. She wanted to do it with me.
We met in Moldova. Its not her or mine country btw. :)
At the first day we went out bought some food etc. Then at home we had sex. But she was stressed.
The second day we went to a restaurant then we went back to home. i was feeling like **** bc i didnt like moldova at all it was too deppressive and im a depressive person too.
She was waiting attention from me but i wasnt giving her any attention at all. Then i wanted to have sex again and she said no. After that i was mad... Then she told me she was stressed about the possibility of her being pregnant. I dont know guys i was thinking all the time and i wasnt trusting her. I cant feel happy around ppl i dont trust. Then we had an argument. I told her that im not going to do anything with her.
Then she left home. And i went back to my country couple days later.
 

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Seems like you concluded your little story without too many consequences.

Now get out, start socializing, make a real life, or you will spend it like a plant in a vase. Stop p0rn, stop excessive videogames, read other topics on this forum, and start doing something for real. I hope you are not 25+ yr old.
 
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