Should I text her first or wait it out?

[Divorced w 3]

Yeah definitely wish I had done that.

But after what happened at the wedding I had it stuck in my head that I had to do something now, thinking there would still be some intrigue and interest there.

Just a little pissed with myself and that I didn't close this. Will be out of my head soon.

It’s normal that when emotions run the decision process, other emotions come up later as a result of the outcomes from the actions taken in the emotional state. They’ll pass. Some may view it as a positive to have awareness on how emotions affected your decision making.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Frustration is visible. And off-putting.

So is judgement.

 

[Gamisch]

Whenever a man asks the board if he should do xyz he's already lost.

There's are no set blueprints because not just every woman is different, every situation is ALSO different. 1 woman can present you with multiple challenges . Tons of variables ,too much to predict the outcome.

If you feel chemistry, you indeed wanna strike when the iron is hot. Thats why women blow and jerk men they dont know the names from in the ally. Imagine you would be like IDGAFFFF and you would "chase" her right away. A week or so later you would meet her again with tons of reports build up already. Just a sneaky look could be making her wet. Now you had to start all over again. Last time you were number 100, by now you even got a new number : "try hard 107" ( she won't even acknowledge nor remember your previous attempts)

Look, if you are a man with options you would hit her upset a date and if she rejected you, cool. By the time you meet her again you might be sleeping with another woman already. That's on HER to figure out.

This is why women tend to prefer bad boys( which is a ridiculous phrase as we are MEN and not boys). The badboy will be straight forward and make it clear what he want. Believe me, if every man chasing her was a member on SS we would have 3 threads per week about this one woman. She is a flirt, and every man who wants "love" will say he felt chemistry. Put her in front of me and I'll report the same chemistry.

Next time just fecking text her the same night. Disguised as a "drunk text" saying she did some to you . Compliment her. Once.

She dealt with TONS if dudes who were wishy-washy and came with all that BF energy right away. I feel like at the bowling center she rather felt like you were that category. If you're honest you also know you probably moved kinda awkward around her.

The biggest lesson I take from this for my own journey is to NEVER give a feck about a strange woman , and to assume that iam better than her. Yes that's a tad arrogant, but I rather be arrogant instead of dorky.

 

[Gamisch]

Yeah definitely wish I had done that.

But after what happened at the wedding I had it stuck in my head that I had to do something now, thinking there would still be some intrigue and interest there.

If it didn't work out, I know I don't see her that often at all, so it wouldn't really effect the next time I do see her. Which again, may not be for 3-6+ months, so thinking any "damage" done, wouldn't be present at that point.

I'm not crying over this.

Just a little pissed with myself and that I didn't close this. Will be out of my head soon.

What happened at the wedding must become default whenever you meet a woman ,regardless of her age or smv. That's the department of self improvement.

Aka you should ALWAYS be moving like you did that day, and you should 99% of the time ignite similar emotions with women. Imagine how a woman like that will respond to you..

A woman flirting to us men must be like a deer running from a tiger: It should instinctively spark a fire inside that tells you it's GO TIME