"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Should I tell my gf if she does something that bothers me?

theapprentice

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I'm not sure on whats the right move or thing to do. My girlfriend did something that I didn't like and I'm kind of mad over it. The thing is that if I show my face and let her know she made me mad that could be a manly thing to do, because I told it straight to her face. Or I can not tell her and act like it never bothered me in the first place and if what she did was intentional she would wonder why I didn't flinch.

So I don't know what the right thing to do is?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Charm&Style

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wow...your type of thought is very irrational.

your in a relationship...wake up bro.

talk to her and tell her that her action was not called for and has annoyed you.
 

Themanthatcan

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Hell no.You better communicate your boundaries, or one thing will lead to the next and you'll end up getting walked all over.
 

Jay Jay

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Depends what she did.

If you are being petty or insecure; no.

If she's really stepped out of line; of course!

When my girls do something ****ty to get a reaction out of me I try to throw it back in their face. For example if I'm out with one of my FBs and they flirt with another guy I'll just give em the finger from across the room with a cheeky smile on my face and hit on some other girls.

JJ
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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theapprentice

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Yeah

Its probably insecurity inside me thats speaking. I get the feeling that, thats what it is.

She didn't do anything to step the boundaries or disrespect me in anyway when I look at it from a better perspective.

So I guess its good I took some time to cool down otherwise I would have made an ass out of myself.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Themanthatcan said:
Hell no.You better communicate your boundaries, or one thing will lead to the next and you'll end up getting walked all over.
Unless you are overreacting to something minuscule, then you just sound petty.
 
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